It hurts me so bad that I can't even express it in words.

Sorry it is little long but I really really need help. I loved this nasty guy for a longgg time but I didnt know he was cheating on me so eventually he got married. I went through depressions and stuff but day by day I tried to change myself and way of my life by myself. I couldnt afford going to the therapist so I accepted what happened to me and I was and still praying for a better future. he was actually from our far relative that we knew so when now my mom talks in phone with her relative and ask about those people I feel like someone who is addicted to some drugs and can’t get it in the certain time. when I hear their name my whole body starts shaking I get headaches. for maybe two, three nights I lose sleep. my question is that what should I do to stop this feelings, and stop caring about them. I even care about his brother his sister, his mom. I know it is so miserable but I want to get rid of this. I dont even know them now but it hurts me so bad that I can’t even express it in words. help please

Answer #1

You need to figure out where the feelings are coming from. Why would you love a guy that was cheating on you? Was there not enough closure? Are you not over something he did to you? Whatever it is- you need to process it, address it. and work through it. Its ok that you have these feelings because you know they are not healthy and that is a huge step! Please keep in mind, some cities (where I live does) offers counseling on a sliding scale. there is a place here that you go in and say- I can only afford $10 bucks, they say cool. Look online for programs like this! I think the headaches and loss of sleep comes from something you are not dealing with- dont push it down- let it all out. I’m sorry you are going through this- Good luck! Hang in there!

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