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I miss my baby, it hurts so bad!!! I need him so bad right now!!

my boyfriend got locked up last week, b/c his hateful baby momma called the cops on him while he was searching for a job at the unemployment office!! that’s right!! she walked in, saw him at the computer, left out the door called the cops and told them that he had a warrant for his arrest of back child support and they came and arrested him!!! mind you now, the little girl just turned 6 or 7 last week and he has no contact with her, no visitation with her, nor does the little girl even interact with the rest of his family. when him and her got together, he was 20 and she was 26, it was a “WAM-BAM THANK you MA’AM” situation and she couldn’t handle that cause she wanted a relationship with him and he wasnt ready to settle down. they tried the move in thing for about a month or so and he decided that he couldnt do it, so he left!! after that she told him a few months down the road that she was pregnant. throughout the pregnancy he checked in on her from time to time, but she had so much bitterness towards him for not being with her, that he couldn’t do that that often. it hurts me so bad to be apart from him we have been together for almost a year now and I just moved to his hometown 3 days after him getting locked up!! please help me I have 2 boys that totally adore their new stepdad and the time that he used to spend with them when he was home!! I want to know should I or should I not contribute any money towards him getting out?? I am writng letters but GOD knows I cant bring myself to see him at no jail house.. they basically just got him sitting in this little building for nothing and the child support people dont give a darn about him or any other man that is in for childsupport.. but with the economy the way it is now it is hard for a lot of us to get jobs nowadays and he really was trying to find work and work on getting his life straightened out.. he was working towards getting his GED and taking up a trade to better himself.. I am a nurse and have had a long hard struggle myself in life.. I have always been a fulltime mom, student in college, and employee for the past 15 years or more.. so I know if you dont have education under your belt you dont have nothing!!! so please advice on my situation!!!

thanks in advance,

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Answer #1

wow listen lady, if he is not a good father to his own child what makes you he will be good to your kids? You never know what he said to her to get in her pants..he might be using you too:) the guy sounds like a real jerk. doesn’t have a job and doesn’t even parent his own child. Women always think they are so special tha what ever a guy does to his ex will not happen to them. She was single and may be younger than you whan he met her and he did that to her, what makes you think he will not break your heart one day too? I met my ex when I was in nursing school. he was just separated from his ex girlfriend, she had a girl with him. he was refusing to pay child support and badmouthing her. But he made me feel special, and will love me forever. Six years, two children and many many abuses later now I am a single mom and he has a new girlfriend with two kids. She hangs up the phone when they call their dad. she also thinks like I did once. he will love her forever yeah right…

Answer #2

Well — she sounds like a fantastic person to have to deal with…

That said — I wonder how much child support he owed that they had a warrant for his arrest for it.

It sucks that her only interest in him now is to screw him over at any chance she gets, but at the same time — he did put himself in the situation once he got her pregnant.

I’m NOT saying she has the right, but on his side, if he wasn’t ready to settle down, he should have used a condom so at least he didn’t make a baby… That’s done, he’s forced to deal with it now.

It’s sad that he’s trying to get his GED ,and he’s trying to get a job, and she pulls this on him, but he’s in jail now.

If you and he have been together for a while, and you’re sure he’s wanting to be with you for more — then you helping get him out of jail isn’t a bad thing. You will have to deal with seeing him there — and if you love him, you need to get over that and go see him, otherwise — he’s gonna think you’ve abandoned him.

This woman will get hers in the end — what goes around comes around… I like to think God will take care of things like that — and I see it time and again — For you though — nothing you can do with the situation except support him.

It’s all key on the REAL situation between you two — If it was me, I wouldn’t go out on a limb like that unless I was real sure of him and what he wanted.

Good luck…

Answer #3

wow listen lady, if he is not a good father to his own child what makes you he will be good to your kids? You never know what he said to her to get in her pants..he might be using you too:) the guy sounds like a real jerk. doesn’t have a job and doesn’t even parent his own child. Women always think they are so special tha what ever a guy does to his ex will not happen to them. She was single and may be younger than you whan he met her and he did that to her, what makes you think he will not break your heart one day too? I met my ex when I was in nursing school. he was just separated from his ex girlfriend, she

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