What would you want to hear from your kid?

i got caught drunk 4times, my parents say im not allowed out at nights anymore but after being in trouble for a week now my dad says i can go out during the day till my mom get home at 6. i usually dont go out during the day so its nothing. but its my summer and i want my parents to trust me again. im not allowed no more sleepovers but i just wish they can try to let me out and ill be home at 11 , i dont care but just letme out.

i dont know how to apologize or convince my dad to let me out.

if you were in the situation..like if you were the parents..what would you want to hear from your daughter?

Answer #1

My 17 yr old has already had her time with drinking..So I’d say that I’ve heard it all. She actually told me, months later I didn’t catch her. She felt like she was punished already by blacking out, throwing up and having a hangover. She says that she will never drink like that again..She told me like 5 or 6 months after the fact so I didn’t give her any consequenses. I have told her that choices that she makes for herself now in her life are just that, HER choice. I cannot be every where with her. I’ve tried to drill it into her that what she does can hurt her and can have lasting consequenses in her life. I just want her to not be so afraid of mom and dad finding out about what she does, I want her to have her own conscience of what is right and wrong even if mom and dad never find out. I guess that as parents we are pretty easy going and understanding. We’ve been there done that in our lives. We have tried to make it to where our kids feel comfortable coming to us and telling us anything..Our sons may not have done that when they were teens, but as young adults they gave up all of their teen secrets and I am glad for the open communication. I don’t know if I’ve gone into too much detail for you or not..to your question, if I caught my daughter, then we’d probably restrict her from going out for a while and talk, talk and talk. Like I said, been there with our sons and that is what we did. Didn’t do much good however b/c after he got off restriction is when he drank the most and ended up in the ER. Parenting is a hard job, that is for sure. We just want the best for our kids and deliver them safely into adulthood.

Answer #2

I don’t know if I am “too old” to answer your question or not. I don’t know if this place is just for teens. If so then I will bow out. However, I would like to reply. I am a married mom to 3 kids. My sons are in their early 20’s and I have a 17 yr old girl. All of my kids have been involved in drinking to some degree. My middle child, my son almost lost his life to it. When he was 17 (4 years ago) he and some friends were drinking very heavily-during the day. He was with several others, along with one boy who claims that he wasn’t drinking. They were outside walking and my son was stumbling so bad, walking into traffic and foaming at the mouth. His apparent sober friend called 911. I was at home and I got the most frightening phone call of my life. It was the police notifying me that my son was in an ambulance being taken to the hospital..My husband and I made it down there to the ER. The doctor told his that his blood alcohol showed that he was 4 times the amount on what is considered the legal limit. He said that in order for my son to tolerate this amount, it is telling him that this wasn’t my son’s first time to be this drunk. He said in other people, smaller amounts have been known to KILL! Long story, but we put our son in an out patient drug and alcohol recovery program through our insurance. He went through the program for just over a year. He is a success story and he will be 21 at the end of this year..I only went into these details just to let you know from a parents perspective. It was hell for our family to know that our son had a drinking problem and that he could have died. Please trust your parents to know that they are looking out for you out of love. They are not trying to punish you. They are trying to protect you. Good luck.

Answer #3

ok thank you so much

Answer #4

It’s not as easy as just saying something to make it all better. You have to show them that you can handle responsibility.

Answer #5

1 word RUNAWAY

Answer #6

thankyou but what would u want to hear..lets say if u caught ur 17yr old daughter

Answer #7

im 16 by the way

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