I want a kid with him he said not yet

I dont know when your getting married congratulations :] but youu probably wouldnt wanna have a big bump in yourr wedding dress. id say get marriedd first then see howw it goes :]

try babysitting for a friend who has a very young baby for a whole day or two. You will very quickly realize how difficult all the work is and how tiring it is. Plus it will let you care for a child for a little bit which it sounds like you really want to do.

I used to nanny for a set of 2 year old twins and believe me, after a whole day of work I would come home exhausted not ever wanting a kid anytime soon.

thanks all of you… any tips on how I can stop thinking about wanting one for a while?

There isn’t really any sort of answer that can be given. You ended your post in a very “case closed” manner.

get married first, then theres a better chance he’ll say yes and a better chance of him not leaving you knocked up.

Yeah, you realize that your wants are not important when it comes to having a baby, because when you have a baby you want to give it the best possible life, which means you need to be in a steady job with a partner who wants kids and is ready for them, so you can give the child the best possible chance…