how do i know i fmy boyfriend and i are moving to fast?

I have been dating my boyfrien for a bit over two months. We have nothad sex yet, and i dont plan to until we pass the 10 month mark, or something…. but we have done other things, below the waist… i dont want to seem sluttish cause i feel like its not, weve been friends forever and are now dating. So its not like im doing grossly bad things.. plus we talk about it,what we do and what we might do,,a lot. I just sometimes have doubts of my own self control if it ever came down to us losing our virginities…. are we moving to fast? Should i get metal underwear? Thankss!

Answer #1

the pace you and your boyfriend move at, depends on you. i had a relationship like that, where we were really close friends then started dating, and we moved at the same pace you two are. we ended up breaking up and i realized it was too fast for my liking. but thats just me, how quickly you guys move is up to you and him

Answer #2

Hun, moving too fast is something only you know.If you feel something is wrong then don’t you do it, and don’t be be pushed into it. When i was younger, i was a little bit fast and loose, and i learnt that guys will nearly always try something no matter how minor, but as i say you move at your own speed.

Answer #3

Don’t get metal underwear haha Two months is a long time to not have sex, but since you’re young and still a virgin, it’s nice to see you’re not easy. Use all your will power to make it to that 10 month mark. Make sure he deserves your first time. And the things your doing aren’t sluttish. It’s normal, it would be bad if you end up doing those things to another guy while in the relationship, or to many guys after… But you’re on the right track, keep it up and make him work for it ! :)

Answer #4

ha thanks, i dont think they wouldve had any medieval clothes shops where i live to get metal underwear anyways, it was just a thought…..a good one. thanks for the support/advice

Answer #5

If you’re 16 or under and think you’re ready for sex you are definitely moving too fast. #1 - too many teen pregnancies and abortions.Face it, there isn’t anything that prevents pregnancy 100 %. #2 If you’re having sex and break up, it’s going to hurt a lot more than if you’re not, and honestly, some guys will stay long enough to get what they want and then leave. I wish I knew your ages, how long you’ve been together etc. If you’d like to get into this more, look me up and send a msg., to my fb inbox and I’ll listen to anything and try to help.I don’t do chat as I’ve never learned to type,LoL, but will answer God luck hon.

Answer #6

If you’re 16 or under and think you’re ready for sex you are definitely moving too fast. #1 - too many teen pregnancies and abortions.Face it, there isn’t anything that prevents pregnancy 100 %. #2 If you’re having sex and break up, it’s going to hurt a lot more than if you’re not, and honestly, some guys will stay long enough to get what they want and then leave. I wish I knew your ages, how long you’ve been together etc. If you’d like to get into this more, look me up and send a msg., to my fb inbox and I’ll listen to anything and try to help.I don’t do chat as I’ve never learned to type,LoL, but will answer God luck hon.

Answer #7

This is hard to answer because everybody has a different view on what is “too fast”. Only you know. If you’re asking this question, then chances are that you do feel like the relationship is moving too fast. I think it’s great that you want to wait at least 10 months, but I can definitely understand how that can be hard when there are temptations and everything. My advice is to try not to get too caught up in the moment. Stick to your standards, and do what feels right. It will be worth it in the end.

Answer #8

Well for starters two months is the equivalent of nothing when it comes to relationships. So I think it’s great you want to wait a little bit into the relationship before you decide to do something like that. If you aren’t comfortable with the things you are doing now, you should stop but if you are comfortable, then you just have to control yourself. If you want this enough (waiting until the 10 month mark) it will happen, and if he cares enough, he will help to ensure it.

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