How do i decide whether or not to keep my baby?

Well you have done it. Now face the music. I can’t understand, how you “laid” with that many problems. Now compose yourself and don’t ruin another life even before it is born. You need to organize your life for the one who is about to come in this world. Children fathers but mother is definitely much more important for them. I guess you can neither be a good mother nor a good human being. You are cruel.

First of all I admire your commitment to stay out the pregnancy even if you yourself donot want to raise the child. It shows real responsibility and maturity. As far as how do you decide: I’m not going to say I’ve been there because I haven’t, I’m not going to say I know what your going thru because I don’t, and I’m not going to tell you what to do because only you know all the factors. But with this decision you have to think of what is going to be the best for the baby. Plenty of young mothers raise bright healthy children. If you do decide to keep the baby I strongly recommend professional help with your mental conditions. The three conditions you mentioned while severe are treatable with medication and thearapy and can allow you and your child to live a realitively normal life.

As far as what you said about adoption there are open adoptions where the baby is brought up with the birth mother in the childs life and the adoption agreement is a binding legal document in which case if the document says it’s an open adoption the adoptive parents cannot revoke the birthmother’s visiting rights without a court order. Other than that small correction, Great Advice!

P.S. I really try to remain unbiased so DISCLAIMER: I am not recommending you do or do not keep the child. I am just giving a recomendation if you do decide to keep the baby since Bellsie did a good job of discribing your options if you did not keep the baby.

Jermy, this is a place for advice so in the spirit of Fun Advice I advise you to try being supportive rather than distructive. Your young and ignorant I understand that, however ignorance like yours is what worrys me about the future. Now I realize I was being hipocritical (thats going against what I said about being supportive by demoralizing you) so here is my support for you. stop trolling online and go get a productive life. Not all pregnant women are ment to be mothers and god could be using her to bring a child to a sterile couple (that means they cannot have children.) She did not ask what should she do, she asked how does she decide what to do.