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Having a baby with a guy that left me

His family and my own hate each other for valid reasons. He has hit me before and been abusive, especially emotionally. Many people that know him suspect that he is slow or has no emotions, and quite possibly bipolar. I had heard that he was just using me for sex through my friend, my brother, his friend, and lastly his mother. His family doesn’t like me because he was never serious about me and we are having a kid. They thrive on drama, get kicked out of every house they live in due to living in what is pretty much poverty although they sure can run up a tab at the bar, buy their cigarettes and lottery tickets every day, and crash every car. They are alcoholics, and into drugs. Noone in the family has any sense of doing the right thing and are lacking some much-deserved respect and decency. the mother is going to jail for fraud soon. I said I was going to get an abortion, but I cannot bring myself to do it as I have realized that this baby deserves life and I am the mother. But I am really at a loss of what to do. The father is no longer talking to me and I don’t know whether he wants to be in the babys life or not or even if he should be. I am only 20 years old and I’m not exactly financially well-off or even stable. I just do not know what to do anymore.

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Answer #1

Dear amandastarez. I’m sorry to hear that you’re in such a hard position right now. I think you are very brave and strong if you decide to keep the baby. I’m sorry that I don’t really have an advice for you but I just want you to know that someone cares.

The baby is innocent and should NOT get the consequences of your wrong life decisions. You cannot change the past but you can change the future. I believe you need God in your life at this time. You should pray and talk to God. Both of my sisters got pregnant at a very young age and was advised to get an abortion. They both decided not to go through with it. It’s hard now that they have their kids but they wouldn’t trade those kids for anything in this world. They said that it’s different when you don’t see your baby but once that little baby is looking into your eyes, the feeling is out of this world and is priceless.

Choose wisely in whatever you choose to do. Just because a girl gets an abortion doesn’t mean her life will turn back to normal. She lives with the feeling of “killing” her baby for the rest of her life. I wish only the best for you in everything you do. Take care of yourself and don’t stress too much since you are carrying a innocent baby inside of you.

Answer #2

aww huny, ims ure you will make a grate mother, an the things you said about your ex I dont think he deserves to have a part in that babys life although a child should grow up with a farther. but do you think he would make a grate role model for your child? an if his family ate that bad would you want your child being in the surrondings of people like that!!? im glad that you have decided to keep the child as you are right it does deserve life, just make sure you get lots of support off your family wich im sure they will do anyway.If that so called man wants anything to do with the child an he knows you are pregnant he would of said something…I think your better off with out him an so is your unborn child! congratulations btw and good luck hope you make the right choice xx

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