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What if my boyfriend's ex has his baby?

ok this is a very long story…so to put the long story short this is how im going to explain my problem 2 you guys…while me and my boyfriend were getting 2 know eachother he had sex with his ex girlfriend. 1 month after that happend he asked me 2 b his girl, ok so its been 2 months since that happend and we are a very happy couple he loves me and I love him, but now his ex is back and she says shes pregnant. he asked her if she wanted 2 get an abortion and she said she didnt know what to do, so he gave her time 2 think about it, he doesnt want her back because shes too problamatic and she doesnt make him happy. he really doesnt want her 2 b his babys mom because he doesnt love her anymore. she’s had 1 week 2 think about it and she still hasnt told him what she wants to do. I know its not the babys fault !! but im just worried that she decides to keep the baby and ruin our relationship. please help !!!

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Answer #1

I would just like to know what you all have done with your dilemma. I have being dating this guy for 3 weeks now and yesterday he told me why he has been down last week, his ex fling said she is 2 months pregnant. Now he told me he dont want to be with her but with me but he is happy he will be a dad and he will support the child etc, but he dont want me to run because of it, if she is pregnant. I don’t know what to do now as he says he really likes me and wants us together but apparently his ex is like psycho she has been over calling him forcing him to get back for the baby’s sake. I feel caught in the middle. I dont think I’m ready for such, we both 24, my boyfriend & I.

Answer #2

Dear fau, Yes, her keeping the baby sound like a big possibility. But why would this ruin your relationship with your b/f? There are plenty of couples who juggle babies outside their relationships. Do you think if she keeps the baby he’ll go back to her? Are you afraid that your time with him will be changed…well it will be, he will have to pay support, he will be spending time with his child etc. If you feel you are not ready for this type of lifestyle then you need to find someone else. When two people have sex there is always a chance that a baby will result…he knew that chance when he had sex with her. Ready or not, it’s grown up time. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

my situation was similar..I was with my boyfriend 3 months when we found out that his ex was like 8 months pregnant with his baby, it was such a shock and she has kept it its really hard for me our relationship was the same until his ex told him he had to leave me and be with her or she wouldnt let him see the baby and now hes stuck because he wants to be a part of his babys life but he wants to be with me, shes moving in with him soon…its so hard for me to deal with as I am only 19 and he is 25

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