How can I get through to my boyfriends parents?

Too bad that at the sound of my name his Dad gets angry. & they don’t want to see me. To be honest, it’s mainly his father? His mother is just strict about the dating rules.

Thank you though. When i “get my foot in the door” I’ll try this.

Thank you though. When i “get my foot in the door” I’ll try this.

your welcome and sorry to hear about that- that kinda sucks :(

You’re telling me. Lol. OH well. All in God’s timing I guess.

yeah

Tricks will make things worse. You will be thought of as a fraud. If you really care about your boyfriend and the things that have been said about you are either false or happened when you were younger and you have changed then you should call his mom and ask if you could drop by sometime to speak with her. Just the two of you. Wear appropriate clothing, something respectful, but don’t be a phoney. If she agrees, start the conversation by telling her that you care about her son and that he is a great guy but that it makes you unhappy that she and her husband don’t seem to like you. Say that you might have misread her feelings but that you respect her (if you do) and want her to get to know you, because you are a good person. If she brings up the things she has heard about you and they are false…say so. Don’t go into a long explanation about how some girl at school started a rumor because you wore her favorite shirt and spilled something on it. Just say they rumors are false and that they are just that rumors. If they are true and you have changed, then say so. Tell her why you changed, how you changed, etc. Parents have a natural bull-o-meter and she will tell if you are lying or trying to pull the wool over her eyes. If you are honest, straight forward and respectful she might start to reconsider and she might talk to her husband. If she states she does not believe you, does not like you, does not think you are good for her son… KEEP YOUR COOL. Be polite, say you are sorry she feels that way and thank her for meeting you.

it all depends on y you can’t get thru now

Thank you so much. You really helped. I shouldn’t have a problem with telling her the truth about things, or dressing appropriately. Those are not hard for me. …..but the last part. I’ll need prayer for that. Lol. But you are right, this is a very good idea. I’m really considering doing it. Thank you again!

They don’t care to ask my opinion…they only go with what they hear.

You are welcome. I am 53 and a mom. I know what I am talking about. I always had more respect for and felt more comfortable with the girls my son dated if they were nice and open with me. Good luck.

you just have to find common ground and build from there

since I don’t really know you that’s all I can really say

Best way i found for that is always say “Sir/Mama”, if they are lifting something offer to help, if they are putting away stuff offer to help, if their cooking ask to help, if your eating over offer to clear the table, but also make sure you don’t forget about your boyfriend.

Hopefully she feels the same. You’re a pretty wise woman. Once again thanks a bunch. :)

Yeah, I’ve always done that just because that is how I was raised… his Dad told him to tell me to “stop sucking up” because it wouldn’t work. But that didn’t stop me from having manners. :) Thank you very much though.