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I've been with my bf for 5 months, and i am a chrisitan, he is not.
He wants to find God, and goes to church with me, but he just doesnt feel it...Its all just a story to him, and he doesnt know how to view it different. I'm gunna give him time, but in the long run i want to marry someone who shares my beliefs.
ps, ill respect your religion, respect mine please.
help him see another point of view. dont bring him to church cuz tht pushed me further away. tell him this. look around u. wat r the chances that all of this happened by chance? the way r body is made up exactly to help us live comftrable? how we hav specofic plants and animals and healing natural medicines all around usbrought by nature? how we get a special feeling when we looks at an ocean or a beautiful place? how we fall in love? how each of us inspire others or change lives forever in the most amazing way possible? how could all of this happen by chance? everything happens for a reason. ther must be sum sort of higher energy out there to help make this happen. you just happen to call it God. Jesus wanted others to respect wat gifts tht were given us. he wanted us to be nice to eachother so we r nice to everythn tht was given to us. the bible is a methaphor for life. it dosnt always hav to be taken literlay. im not christian but i kno he wants to be so try telln him this. good luck :)
You can't, it's something they must find on their own. At least he's trying, which is more than what I would do for anyone who'ld wanted to date me. I'm a pagan, and anyone I date MUST accept me wholly for who I am without trying to change me. How would you like it if he tried to convince you your religion was wrong, that your god wasn't real? I highly doubt you would like it, or go along with it. Give him a chance, at least he's trying. Here's a question, why does it matter so much? If you cared for him, loved him, it shouldn't matter. To me, caring/loving someone isn't about accepting what you want and trying to change the rest, it's about accepting them wholly, good and bad; flaws and all. If you can't do that for that boy, if you cannot see yourself with him how he is now, accept him for being they way he is, then you should do the both of you a favor and end it.
It may not ever happen. It didn't for me and I went to Sunday school, church, church choir, and even Bible study thru senior year in high school. (I am an Atheist.) But that being said... . Continue to encourage (NOT push) him to go to church. Let him know that you really appreciate his going with you. Possibly join in activities, even volunteer - with or without him. Food banks and other community social services can always use help. By doing these, he may become more involved on a positive, proactive level. If not - and you are sure that your partner must share your religious beliefs - this will also introduce you to more people. What ever you do, try not to get married before your mid-twenties. Divorce statistics are horrible for early marriages. Good Luck!!
its definitely hard when dating someone who can't find God or doesn't believe in God..trust me i know =[ its very difficult and i've been through it..he didn't believe in God and would say some things i very strongly disagreed in..and didn't really want to go to church or anything with me..it is sad and it does make the relationship hard..hopefully your bf will feel God's presence soon...if he really is putting effort in it and giving his all, i have faith that he will feel it...its way better him trying than for him to just shove it away and hurt your feelings about it..so maybe just give him time and if he really wants it then it will come..ya know..
Well thats very important for you to understand that theres only few things you can do about it..i am sure that he wants to find God because every human wants something bigger/stronger than him to believe in..i think that you did everything you could to show him the truth about God..its all about his heart..if his heart is made up in that way then God will allow your bf to find him..you know devil has blinded people and just a fiew have the chance to feel and believe in God..So pray for him to God and dont worry because our God can do anything..i wish the best for him and for you too.....!!
Well, he is going to church with you so it's not all bad. Educate him, teach him about faith, show him the power of prayer. Maybe you could buy him a daily devotional that has a message to read for each new day of the year. Ask him to at least learn about Christ and assure him of the blessings he will recieve once he becomes a believer. Have patience with him and do not be forceful. Have faith yourself about this matter and I believe the Lord will lead you in the direction of his plan for your life. God bless.
i think that the fact that he's trying should be good enough for you , but remember christanity is one religion , and not the only
and anyway he's not just going to magically say ohh i think the bible is gods stories ( or something like that ) , if he believes it deep down he will think that , but we dont all have the same beleifs and its important to remember that
You can't. Either he will or won't. If you really love him, why does it matter? He seems to be giving it a shot, and that is all you can ask. I am an atheist, and have been married to a pretty devout believer for 27 years. We make it work just fine. She learned that if she pushed me, I just pushed back harder. So I would suggest not pressuring him.
I'm gonna agree here with jimahl and say there isn't anything you can do. You push he will grow to oppose it. As a Christian, the only thing we can do is pray for him. He's at least giving it a shot and going to church. Just let God do the rest.
You can't really force a religion on someone. And to only want someone with your veiws is closed minded. If he is a nice, respectful, funny man. Then his religish veiws are but a finger nail that makes him who he is.
"ther must be sum sort of higher energy out there to help make this happen. you just happen to call it God." . What you wrote is SO good, especially the bit I'm pasting. You are wise beyond your years, Rosealyn.
yeah.... it shocked me too. haha. I mean, you are right, one person can't make another believe anything. You can lay out every reason why they should but it is the person who chooses to believe or not.
Maybe something will happen as time goes on that leads him to find God? Like maybe he'll experience something thatll bring him to God..I say that itll all work out how it's supposed to be as time goes on.
yeah.... it shocked me too. haha. I mean, you are right, one person can't make another believe anything. You can lay out every reason why they should but it is the person who chooses to believe or not.
Maybe it'll just come to him. Give him some books to read on your religion, show him the history and such. But you must respect that you can't force religion on someone...Either they believe or don't.
Not to beat a dead horse, but again, it isn't necessarily a choice. I did not choose to believe, I just came to a conclusion based on the evidence.
Ask him to explain his beliefs to you. Neither preach nor judge. Just let him hear himself speak.
Wow, you actually agree with me Bryson.... I think that's a first.... lol...
You can only pray that Elohim calls him to salvation! :)
look him up on facebook. ;)
thnxxxxx :D i try lol
