being in love with a married man

thats the key word would like to . he would probably like to be with any woman that would be with him. of course you may be in love wit h him . but you say you would like to know if he means it when he say that he would like to be with you, simple….. tell him to leave his wife and see what response you get.

You can be in love with a married man, but be careful and do not waste too much time for him. As far as I learned, some young ladies can give years from their life to a “leading nowhere” relationship with married men. This type of relationships should be short adventures.

I’m so very hurt right now. I’ve been in this relationship for the past 15 years (I’ll be 36 this month). He recently had heart surgery in Saudi Arabia where left to go and work. He has been lying to me ever since, now his wife is up there and he tells me that he still loves me. I find it so very hard to walk out, even though I knwo in my ‘head; that he will never be commited to our relationship.

There is so much more I can say …. both goos and bad … God alone knows how much I really love him …

Frustrated to the point of doing something foolish ….

Look being in love with a married is not a good thing. I been there myself for over 10 yrs. now he’s finallly devorived. I thought wow now I can have him to myself. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be, believe me. It’s alot of heartache, worring all the time wondering what he’s doing if he’s going to call. It really is a bunch of bullcrap. Believe me I’ll never do it again as long as I live. I’m telling you this straight from the heart it’s really not worth the hurt! If you in it get out of it before you get in too deep. You don’t want to go through what I went through. The wife finding out all that crazy stuff. Go for a single guy, I wish I did! It may hurt for awhile but it gets easier as time goes by! Good luck!

This is wrong on so many levels. Don’t you feel it’s wrong that he’s trying to have the both of you. If he doesn’t have feeling for his wife then he should divorce her instead of lying behind her back. How sure are you that you want to be with him? He’s lying to his wife and sneaking around calling you, how do you know he won’t do this to you if you two are together. He sounds like a dog who want to eat his cake and have it too. Have respect for yourself and give him the boot, their are plenty of free and honest fish out there.

You most probably do feel real feelings for this man but you should make good decisions despite your feelings. This man once had these same feelings with his wife or he wouldn’t have ever been married but time and neglect of the relationship have taken their toll.

These feelings aren’t more important than his commitment and his wife’s feelings and if he has kids, their feelings matter as well. Affairs are nothing but hurt and heartache for everybody involved. If you really care about this guy, get away from him and the situation before you unleash hell on everybody invovled. (After a period of sweetness of course).

Run away now! I have recently been in a similar situation…it is already causing so much pain to both of us. He is torn over his wife, family and me. I know it seems impossible right now, but harden your heart, tell him goodbye and find a man who is free to share his love and life with you. Good luck!!