What can I do if my baby's father doesn't help with caring for our child?

I don’t have a child, but one of my friends was with someone who was like that. Not only did he not change the child, but he refused to do a lot for it as well. She ended up ending the relationship.. That being said, I’m in no way suggesting that.

Have you tried talked to him about it and letting him know how you feel? If you haven’t, I think that having a heart to heart about it would be an appropriate first step. Use “I” statements. Say something like.. “I’m a little angry with the fact that you don’t help me change our child’s diapers or feed him/her from time to time. When you don’t help it leaves me having to do everything with him, and I don’t really agree with that. I’d really appreciate it if you could help me with our child more.” Try that, and see how it goes.

I think talking could work. I’m not a mother, but from the outside looking in I can certainly understand your frustrations. If I were in your shoes, I would be concerned with what other care for the child he may neglect if this continues. It diminishes trust on top of completely exhausting you. Girl, you didn’t get that baby by giving it to yourself & no man should sit around and watch the mother of his child care for him/her by herself. Try talking about it! Sometimes, it is that simple.

My birth dad said he was like that. But he is a good dad now. He was then too, just didn’t like to do that stuff. also, is he an “old fashioned” type of man. It’s a woman’s job to care for the house and kids and a man’s job to work and pay the bills?

As for diapers, sometimes guys don’t feel comfortable doing that, same with baths. Does your child’s father have experience with kids? maybe he is second guessing himself because he doesn’t know how to do it.

Definitely talk with him. Maybe even help him out if that’s what is needed. But don’t be a “”know it all”. You know? If he tries it and does it wrong? Let him learn from his mistake don’t correct it. if you do he may not try again.

Hope things work out for you!

It’s very easy for people to say dump him…..(sorry, I just read that answer). The truth of the matter is that is a quick solution to a complicated issue. Not a good one either.

Young mothers have enough to do….dumping the daddy is the worst move you can make and it isn’t fair to the child you made together either.

Try to talk to him. If he still doesn’t help you with these things.. maybe you should let it go. I’m sure there are things that you don’t help him with either. I don’t help my husband with ‘guy stuff.’ I don’t work on the car or repair the mower. He doesn’t cook. So what? It balances out. (I cook while he mows) ; )

Relationships are about giving and taking. Maybe he isn’t comfortable changing and bathing the baby. Many men aren’t and that’s okay. Talk to HIM and try to find out how he feels about those things. Men and women are NOT created equally, contrary to what some people think. If he is a good father otherwise and is supportive of you and your child…. be thankful for that and love him for it.

If he has no interest in caring for his own child and would rather go do other things, I would have nothing to do with him. He obviously doesnt give a crap. Go with your gut and do whats best for your kid. Hope things work out!

He has to help you. well financially anyway

One can not make others be responsible, but one can be responsible for what they have. You created your child with this man and he doesn’t want that responsibility, he’s no man. I bet he doesn’t have a job either. He’s no man. That is the reason why he doesn’t want that responsibility. He can’t be responsible. Why would you want that to be a part of you life. Seek another who will want you and your baby. If you have to move away to another town or state do that. As long as you are in that environment you will continue to have or attract the same thing. If you want change, you are the one that has to do that. If you want the right guy you are the one that has to change to bring it about. Change yourself to be what you want to BE. You are the only one that can bring about change in yourself to have change. If not you will continue to have the same thing, bad experiences.