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Am I wrong to still be upset and kinda spiteful?

Straight to the point. My friend said that now that I, and most of our girlfriends, have a boyfriend she is feeling neglected. I didn’t think that was true but I decided to give her prefernce anyway. One day she suggested that we go out, just the two of us. My boyfriend called a few hours later and he had made plans to take me out. I said I really can’t because I already made prior plans with my friend and it would be wrong to cancel because I wouldn’t want someone to blow me off for their boyfriend. He was a bit upset and disappointed but there was nothing I could do and what made it worse was that we wouldn’t be able to see each other for quite a while after that because we were both going to be busy. Anyway, on the day my friend planned to come pick me up so I got dressed and waited for her because I didn’t want her to wait for me. So she calls half an hour later than what she was supposed to come, to cancel without any explanation.

SO here it is, I have been upset (off-ish) with her for 3 days now because I could’ve been out with my boyfriend instead if she had to tell me earlier that she couldn’t make it. I also decided not to give her preference anymore. So. Am I wrong to still be upset and kinda spiteful? Because, I mean, I gave her a chance and she blew it. I felt as though I had been messed around. Guidance needed.

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Answer #1

That’s the thing, “ouly”, it’s not the first time this has happened. She’s known for not sticking to plans. For example, she will initiate the plan with people in advance but will only ask for permission a few minutes before we have to go. Her father’s her lift and he’s not always willing to cart her around.

Answer #2

I say, go with the guy.. I mean yeah, all that blah blah about stay with your girlfriends and you’ll have them for life, but when your girlfriends go around making plans, then rejecting them,.. it would piss me off.. so GO THE GUY!

Answer #3

Well if it isnt the first time then no… It’s one thing to be upset with her because she didnt show up this one time, but if she keeps doing it, then why should you have to suffer by getting stuck sitting at home alone? I guess the solution is hanging out as a group… make group plans (either with just the girls or with just everyone). That way if she doesnt show, it’s not a big deal, if she does show, then you can spend time together…

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