Is the age gap too big?

Why is it that when you are older, THEN it’s fine? I don’t get it.. Most people say I am very mature for my age… DOes that count?

I think that what makes an age gap important is when that age gap occurs. There isn’t much difference between a 40 and 43 year old or a 20 and 23 year old. That is because those people are at the same point in their lives. If you are 13, it is FAR too big of a difference. It doesn’t matter if you are mature for your age, the point is that you are in two different parts in your lives. You both would most likely just be wasting your time with each other. He is old enough to drive, you just hit the age limit in which you can sit in the front seat. He is in high school. I am assuming you are not. In about a year he will be thinking about colleges (maybe) You will be thinking about going to high school and surviving freshman year. If that isn’t enough, think about this: He might be interested in you, but think about when you meet his friends. They will probably exchange glances at each other and later laugh about how their friend is a cradle robber. You won’t be able to relate to anything they talk about! Even if you do start a relationship (which I don’t recommend), it wouldn’t last. Trust me, when I was in high school I saw it happen all the time.

I know a guy who is older is appealing but trust me, it isn’t worth it. It isn’t the age difference, it’s WHEN the age difference occurs.

At 13 that age gap is much too big. At that age even a year is a major difference in maturity. It doesn’t matter if you ate nature for your age. You are in elementary, or a freshman at highschool, he is in highschool. There is a major difference there. Not to mention most guys who go for girls a lot younger than themselves at this age is for sex. Because young girls at this age are more naive. I’m not saying that because you are 13 you are naive at all. Regardless 13 I’d too young to be dating at all, it pretty much never lasts especially with someone older. My advice, don’t. It’s bot worth it dating at thid age even less with so don’t three years older than yourself.

What’s important is that you are “in the same place”. That can be lots of different things: both in high school, both in college, both have a career, both ready to get married and start a family, both divorced, both retired. The older you are then more likely you are both in the same place. At 13 and 16 you are not both in the same place. And not being in the same place means not good for a relationship.

One more thing …. I don’t get the “slut” stuff. “slut” means sexually promiscuous. I’m guessing that’s not you … none of this has anything to do with being slutty.

It’s not aout the age gap, it’s about you being 13. At that young an age you’re naive and can easily be taken advantage of by a hxrny 16 year old boy. Just be careful…