Why is he still on my mind?

and all I can listen to is breakup songs,and im going nuts.I never had a breakup like this.he was the longest relationship I ever had.I feel so bad.I cry all tha time.and he probrably already has another girlfriend! he probrably dont care.he cared when he found out the reason and who caused it(neither of us/my ex-best friend) she ruins anything to get him. I feel stubborn.I havent talked to him since 2 days ago.but all I think about is him!I keep thinkin back to da fight,flashbacks.last night I took a shower and just sat there in the shower,I aint even take my clothes off,let them soak in the watr.I sat in the tub,water hiding my tears,and cried like a big baby that wants its mother.When I got out after I got up and washed my hair and body, I had to sneak my clothes to the laundry room and lie saying that on my way home they got wet.They dont even know I dated him at all.They dunn owhy im so depressed.I have to go to therapy now because I broke a frikkin window wit my fist.I punched it out of anger.no adults know.only friends.I dunno how to get him off my mind.thats how bad it is,that I cry in da shower wit my clothes all on screaming cryin,like,huhuhuhu crying.plus there’s this guy I like other than him,but I am not in tha mood for dating.I want to date the other guy,but I cant do that widout doin sumthin stupid.

Well I’m not the best one to give advice on relationships but I’ll give it a shot. My biggest problem is I HATE liers… If he feels that he needs to lie to you then he really doesn’t care about you. And if you have so many questions about the relationship then you’re not in love either, you maybe love him for whatever it is that gives you two history, but you’re not in love with if you understand. You’re an absolutely beautiful woman and there is no reason for you to get treated any less than perfect. The man you find should love you and cherish every moment with you because in his eyes, he sees no other way that he could possibly treat you. Now I will add that I’m personally a little old fashion, open doors, pull out chairs, you know old school. But if you have any doubt in your heart and/or your mind then obviously he’s not the one for you. Like I said I may not be the perfect person to give you advice, lol. I can’t get my own personal life going where I would like it too. But if there is one thing I know how to do is how to treat a woman like she deserves. I mean seriously, stop and just take a look at yourself in the mirror, you’re gorgeous and if a man can’t see what he has then he doesn’t deserve such a good thing in his life. Just keep your head up and let him go sweetie you deserve better than that.
If you ever want to talk just let me know, I hate seeing women struggle…

we last 11 months,but we were never on and off,it was a fight,but right after we’d be back together.its hard lettin him go

You cant follow your heart, when your heads a mess. You have to do whats right for you. This guy seems to be bringing out the worst in you, and that would be reason enough to be done with him. His actions show, he doesnt seem to care in the least about you, or your feelings.

Listen to your head here. Getting over someone is difficult, because you’re in the habit of seeing them, talking to them on the phone, kissing them, etc, and you miss it, but it is possible to let it go and move on.

Stay strong and don’t call him, if he calls you, don’t answer. Make it a clean break, and start over. But more importantly, learn from this. Think about what you liked/disliked about the relationship, and make sure the next one happens when you’re ready, and when you know what you want from it. Good luck!

whether he bring flowers or not,I dont beileve he’ll change.I got a history of datin thugzz,but this one a pain in my asz!I really thank you guys for all advice,oh and 1 more thing,he’s too much of a p*ssy to come to my door wit flowers anyways.he too worried about who’ll see him.Thank you all!

I know exactly how you feel…men SUCK!! They really do. Your really pretty and you dont need to put up with this crap. I know your heart says taking him back, but its going to keep happening, hes not going to change. Trust me I know. Let him go. Go out and have fun with your friends. I know your gunna be down and missing him, but its part of life, your so used to living and doing everything with him, that when hes gone, you seem lost. but life gets better. Keep your mind busy. ignor all his calls and dont call him back. If he truley loves you…hell show up on your door step with flowers and a good explanation. But for now, just forget him. If you need anything just fun mail me :-)

I know im writing a lot,he been in jail be4 too,but I just im lost.

I know,it’s just so hard.

thats wut I thought.it seems as if he just has a big hold on me,im used to going home,callin him,and going out.Tellin everybody about how happy I was to be with him,but he’s a faker.

Thanks,I think im over it.

Hes like a habit…a bad habit, and habits are hard to break, but not impossible!