Why dose my dad wanna know me?

I agree with hysterical. If you do decide to go see him then you can choose a quiet public place and bring someone along for support.

Either way, you don’t owe him anything and shouldn’t feel obliged to meet him.

Also, think of your health, you shouldn’t be putting too much stress on yourself especially when pregnant. He should be understanding of this and respect your needs. So take all these things into account and remember if you don’t want to go through with this now then you can say no or put it off until later on (maybe after the birth).

You could also try communicating with him in other ways before seeing him face to face. If you feel the need to get to know him then write letters, talk on the phone or find some other way to communicate with him. He should understand that this is difficult for you and that he should be patient.

Obviously he was not well and did a horribly awful thing, whether he is better now and whether you’ll be able to have compassion for him is a whole other ball game. I think only time will tell how it will all end.

It is not up to your step Dad. This decision is entirely yours. Understandably, your step dad is trying to protect you. Unfortunately, he is also trying to emotionally manipulate you into doing what he wants by threatening to leave you and never talk to you again. If he can not be supportive of you and whatever decision you make then don’t talk to him about it. He obviously is not able or ready to deal with this situation at this point in time. It is the same case for your Mom, it is difficult for her to bring up the past and might not be able to talk about it. But this doesn’t mean you have to avoid the subject. Stop worrying about others and concentrate on how you feel and what you want. Then it will be easier to make up your mind about what you want to do.

Fatherly instinct…

Only if your okay with the idea of being in front of your actual father.

That doesn’t mean you should go too see him alone, try going with your husband or your step dad. I personally don’t think its okay, honestly look at what he did, he beat your mother when she was pregnant with you and just left you guys, and suddenly he just wants to come back? It’s way to late for that, he should have realized what he was doing.

but my step dad says if I see him he is gone. my real dad knows nothing about me he dont even know im a mum.my mum wont talk about him