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Hi,

For a while now I’ve bin attracticed to my tutor. I’m 17 and irecently found out that he’s 22, thats not bad if he wasnt my tutor. I’ve kept it from him even though its driving me mad!! :(. I’m a student who will work hard etc and when he says things like thanks for 2day soph,, it makes me happy but then confused inside as if he knows allready without me mentiong it..

What should I do??

Please help, thank you xx

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Answer #1

feeling an attraction to an older man isnt unusual. I had a huge crush on my english teacher when I was 17 and he was 26 (college professor) But I definitly didnt act on it, it would have been more complicated than I was willing to deal with. so my advice is to first think about the risks (im sure you already have since you posted this) and to think about if he is worth it. Think about if you see this relationship moving past the here and now, if this will be something in the years to come. If you think so, waiting it out till your 18 and legal (or atleast close, a relationship wont be illegal, as long as you dont have sex before 18) wont be too much of a problem since you like him so much, that way if you find out that you dont like him that much, no harm done. But, what kind of tutor is he? hired by YOU or hired by the SCHOOL? big difference if something were to happen. Just, do NOT sleep with him until he is no longer your tutor and you are no longer a minor. But a relationship wont hurt (as long as he is not your tutor anymore) legally anyway… there can be emotional risks with dating someone older so think about that too

Answer #2

Well since your still considred a minor, I would advise you not to act on any of the emotions that your feeling. I know it’s eating you up inside, but the best, and most proffesional thing you can do, is just to continue like normal and keep the relationship just as tutor and student. There’s a 5 year difference in age. He may see you only as a child. Like count 5 years off your age, it would be 12. What would you do if you were tutoring a 12 yr. old and he told you he really liked you? However, that might not be the best comparison because your not 12 and your much more mature than a 12 year old would be. But still, my advice stays the same, you probably should not act on it at all. If your turning 18 soon and you still find your attracted to him, than maybe try it. But not while your still a minor. I hope this helped you :)

Answer #3

thats not that much of an age difference. I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 21. its not that big of a deal.

Answer #4

tbh I believe age is just a number and once you are ‘Legal’ you should be able to date any body who is also ‘legal’, if you’re in england you could ask him out but I believe it would be breaking the education law about the student/ teacher relationships, apparently they arent even allowed to add you as a friend on a a social site, a social site or any other social neteorking sites :/

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