Why can't relationships be easy?

so…if you havnt read my last question my boyfriend lost his job and for a while he was in the worst mood all the time. dispite his sour attitude towards everything I’ve been supporting him, reassuring him all the time. some how im the one who feels like everything thats going wrong is my fault. he has this magical way about him that even if im 100 % sure im right. he some how makes me doubt myself. anyway im not making him look too good. he tries to do so much for me and when he cant hes really hard on himself and hes already got a new job so hes not a bumb.

anyway my question today is

what can I do so that when he comes home from work we have something to do that isnt to crazy but is fun at the same time?

tomorrow im going to go buy Knocked Up ( honestly thats the best movie ever) and we’re just going to chill and relax..but we cant watch movies everynight - thats boring…

any suggestions

Answer #1

i would just like to say to captainassassin… i dont need think i need to re-evaluate my priorities thanks- i dont take for granted the times ive spent with my boyfriend just sitting watching a movie talking and just enjoying eachothers company. i dont wanna plan for a six flags trip.. i just want us to both have options. HE enjoys going out as well as staying in.

Answer #2

If you consider staying home, watching movies, and enjoying each others company… boring. Then maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

Answer #3

Some of the most precious moments with someone close to you; is when you’re alone together, doing nothing.

Never underestimate the benefits of ‘nothing-time’

Answer #4

Haha I agree with captainassassin. And I wouldn’t resort to alcohol like someone above me said.. because that is just a bad idea in general. Yeah, it may work every once in a while but you shouldn’t rely on that to be the only thing to bring you two closer together. Go out to dinner sometimes, maybe make dinner together. That can be really relaxing, and fun! There is nothing wrong with sitting and watching movies together. Cuddling can be one of the most intimate acts ever. But yeah, make some nights “stay at home” nights and other nights “go out for a while” nights

Answer #5

CaptainASSASSin- Is an effin queer.. If your near a beach- go take a walk together- if not go to a pool where no one else is. This may sound funny- but have a beer together- dont get drunk- but a little alcohol may make it easier to say how you feel and let loose a little bit. Make watching a movie like a once or twice a week thing. Maybe watch the movie in bed and cuddle :-). Go out to dinner sometimes. Go to a park. Or to the movies instead of watching them at home… Theres lots of things u can do… :-)

Answer #6

Oh, and the best relationships are never easy… you have to have the hard times in order to have the really, really good ones!

Answer #7

Well, you said it was boring…

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