Why can't my mum let me have some free will?

My mum NEVER lets me go out, the only thing I do all day is sit on my laptop. She has to know what I’m doing at EVERY moment. I feel suffocated and because of all this I’m depressed 24/7 Please help

Answer #1

Communication is your only resource here. Try talking to her in a mature way, try discussing why you feel smothered, what you would like to do. Don’t mention clubbing or parties just yet but small things like. For instance if you could catch a movie with one of your girlfriends. Then if that’s not allowed ask if your friend can come over to your house. Then next time ask if you can go over to her house. Try getting your parents to meet your friends. Not all at once but one or two at a time. This way they can see who you hang out with and worry less about where you’ll be and with whom.

Answer #2

well… havign free will does not mean doing whatever you want… it just means that you do what your mom alows you too… so if your mom does not let you then that is too bad… the best thing to here? nothing… there is no point of being depressed, your mom is doing her job you just want to do everything that you want and that is not how things work… Your being depressed for no reason outhere there is people who are really depressed badly your not depressed you just want to take your own path… this shows you are not ready…

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #3

wow, learn a new language .. extremely fun :l This kid needs fresh air, I hate it when im trapped indoors and I do feel suffocated and stuffy, but my mum is not over protective and lets me go out and hang around with my friends, and yes ‘ty’ you do have a point about him whining about not being Able to not go out but I guess your the type of person who likes it indoors, people are different and people have different prefrences. Respect that yes? He probably does play on the computer, write, draw read, watch tv but they are boring, he wants to go out and have some fun.

Answer #4

Uhm free will? You do have free will. What you dont have is freedom to do whatever you want. Excuse your parents for trying to protect you. Find something productive to do with your time instead of whining about it. You’re depressed because you choose to be unhappy about what you cant have. You have a computer. You can write, draw, read, watch tv, learn a new language, play games, whatever… There are people around the world who have to walk miles for clean water, sleep on dirt floors, and have never seen a computer. Please dont expect any sympathy because your mother restricts your movement.

Answer #5

Tell her how you feel, explain to her how controlled you feel and you have rights to roam free, even compromise .. say to her I will keep a mobile phone on me so if you worry about me you can ring me and I’ll assure you I’m okay. Make her Feel like she can trust you when you go out, like most teenage boys get drunk and smoke, She might think that? who knows. Maybe this is because have you abused her trust before when you was going to go out with some friends? But if not Just tell her and re-assure her that you will not do anything illegal when your out.

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