When I'm older... All I want is a family...

ichibanarky is right- your mopey, whiney attitude and insecurities are very unappealing to women. Just live for the PRESENT. Show others you are a happy fellow, and they’ll want to be around you. Would you rather hang out with somebody who complained all the time and constantly hear their same sob-stories or would you rather be with somebody who chatted about their day in a pleasant manner and wanted to talk about fun things? You’ll catch more flies with honey, honey. :o)

But the present sucks.

Yes, I am - but do you honestly think I had that expectation when I was 14?

I was 14 - all my cares were about my next big biology test and which boy was looking my way.

And just so you know, my life was not always a picnic. I was a teen mother, and I was in an abusive relationship. I lived on the streets after being kicked out of my home and I was molested as a child - repeatedly. I prefer not to divulge all that, but you know what? I don’t whine about it…poor, poor me…

No - I got through it, I put it behind me, and now I’m happy…so guess what? Get over it!

You don’t know what I’m like in real life… so you can’t assume that I complain all the time and constantly tell people “sob stories”???

Very unappealing to women?! Errr, I’m a girl, and I don’t want to be appealing to other women… so…

Oh and ichibarnarky… “Drop my expectations”?? It says on your profile you are a happily married mother of three…

No, that’s the past…it’s gone…I told you to fix the ‘present’ - completely different thing.

Too late.

Then fix it.

I think that when the time is right, the right person will fall into your lap

Its not attitude… its the truth… I can’t go back and fix whats gone…

You need to drop the expectations.

Stop worrying about the future and just deal with the present…what is meant to be, will be.