What should I do? Can somebody help me?

no one can tell you if hes cheating on you no one but him or soemone whos seen him cheat (if he has) as for rekindling the romance it depends as from what youve said your still doing the same things that broke you up in the first place maybe it might be best to seek profesional help to sort out your feelings of jelousy and paranoia

jazlovestoskate,

thanks for the advice. he told me he’s not cheating on me and that he still loves me. it’s just that, he’s too tired to defend himself every time I get jealous. I’ve been asking my colleague’s advice regarding this and they told me the same thing my boyfriend told me before the break-up. That I should improve myself first since the problem lies with me.

Do you think our relationship will work if I ‘fix’ myself?

I think it would work if you fix yourself, just a word of advice on being jealous and overprotective.

Stop being so fearful that hes with another girl. When your doing this, your really telling him ‘’I don’t trust you to be outside with other people’’ which you know isn’t good. You need to be able to trust yourself with the thought of having him around other people, especially women. How about the two of you trade places, one day you go out and have a fun relaxing time, while your boyfriend can be the one to act all paranoid about not having you around. This will give you a good idea of what it feels like when you treat him like that.

Another thing is to control your anger impulses. You have to realize that most of the times your yelling at him because of jealousy, you don’t have a real reason too. Your just fearful. Control that and learn to trust what he says. You don’t seem to be doing that and thats not healthy. It helps to realize when a fight is about to start and then take the lead and tone it down. You don’t need to fight and when you feel it happening, stop and realize whats going on. Your arguing with the person you love – not cool.

Your relationship can work out, this is just one of those problems that need to be mended by both of you. Remember, a relationship consists of mutual trust and you seem to be lacking that. You love him and you KNOW he loves you. Thats all you really need to put any silly thought in automatic doubt.

He would love to have time for you but other things that are necessary get in the way. Simple things like this create a distance between to people. You two have to work around that and find a way to build around it. I’m not sure how your going to do that but it has to be done. You can’t let the distance between you two kill the relationship?

Hope this helps.