What: Madre trouble?

At least you will know first hand how “not” to treat your own children later on in life.

I don’t know your situation, of course, but in reading what you have written, I get the feeling that your mother is projecting feelings of hurt and anger toward you that she truthfully has for someone else. Your senerio roughly outlines similar situations where the mother is angry at the father, maybe perhaps for her having another child that she, herself, was not planning on having initially… and so she takes it out on the child because the father is no longer in the picture for whatever reason.

Almost every child as they are growing up will go through a stage similar to this with their parents. Usually it happens shortly before the child is old enough to leave home on their own.. goes off to college… or, basically is “leaving the nest”. Some parents still try to hold on, and to them constant corrections and arguments are the way to do that. It is sort of a “test”, I suppose, that the parent unknowningly goes through to see if their child is strong enough to stand against the rest of the world on their own and survive. In most cases, a little later on in life, both the parent and the child will reconcile with each other and become good friends once again … once the child has made it and established their independence on their own. So, although your mother may be more than harsh with you and relentless at it… you have to remember that she may be projecting her anger toward you that is truthfully toward someone, or something else, in her life. And/or part of it may be just a development stage on her part as well. In all cases, however, physical violence is not part of the picture. If that persists, perhaps seeking professional help of some sort is in order.

I think what you have written here is something that is very good for other “parents” to read and understand. Just to ensure that they are not a carbon copy to their children, but more nurturing and loving instead.

Thanks for writing what you have written. It is frustrating, and quite often common, but you have actually made a serious contribution in life already by exampling yourself to others who may be facing the same situation at hand.