K I'm 15 almost 16 and I feel like a mother already because my brother has downs and I take care of him all the time and I love it. my boyfriend told me he wanted kids and I said I do to. I know that if I have a kid my friends and family would help me and I would bust my a** for my child. The only problem is he's going to the military and he told me that I have to know I am absolutely ready because he might not come back alive. I love him so much and we don't have plans to have kids right at the moment but we are having unprotected sex using the withdraw method. I know I'm going to need a job and I will get one. I still have two years of high school left. I was just wondering what you guys think about it? Please try not to be mean but if there's no other way to tell me then let me have it lol thanks
As much as you love your boyfriend and as much as you think you're ready to raise a child...you're not. Having a baby is not only physically demanding, but mentally demanding as well.
Firstly, it could be dangerous to have a child for both you and the baby at this age, you're not fully developed and the likelihood of having a premature baby is sky-high.
The strain doesn't end when the baby is born; expect long nights, no social life and someone in your house is going to have to pick up the slack, monetarily speaking.
I've seen some people try and finish school, but the majority of them drop out aorund the 5th month of pregnancy. Out of all the teenagers I've known to get pregnant in high school, not a one has gone back. So if you think you're ready for a baby, be willing to sacrifice your life and accept that you may have to raise that child as a single mother.
I know you love him and there's always the chance that he won't make it back...but are you really ready? Personally, I don't believe anyone is ready at your age. You have a lot of growing up ahead of you, and you should be enjoying those years and waiting for a wedding and a job so you can raise a happy, healthy and financially stable household.
Also, that withdraw method doesn't work too well. you might want to reconsider that.
Good luck. <3
Hey there I would have to say that you should wait a bit longer ,, am thinking that you guys are very in love but a baby can be very diffecult to handle at times. Believe me I feel like am atill young to have a family and I am 21 years old and married. It is a very big step enjoy your high school years apreciate him and have fun but be responsible once a child is born there is no turning back think about it .. I would say first set goals for yourself. An example do something with your live in which you want your future baby to be proud to have a very eduacated mother and father. Have a plan do not just expect things to work out for you .If you dont kw urself what you want with your live. Another important factor you say he is living to the military.. Think about it twice because you will be raiseing the child by yourself most of the time... think about it no more social life.. YOur child will come first before your boyfriend and family friends anf everything so know think are you ready to live your life for a mature boring in many ways because babies are not all cute all the time I really hope your not being presure and I also hope you really consider my homble opinion. Hope you make your best result out of this one.
You have to take a lot of things into consideration.. IF he doesn't come back alive.. Then your baby won't have a father. You will also have a very hard time juggling your child with a job because it needs to be fed. Honestly, and this is in my own opinion, you should start having protected sex and hold off until he get's back (let's hope he does) This is in my own view but it's best to do what you find best then to listen to something you don't agree with. About the "Withdraw Method" This is not always effective against preventing pregnancy because the penis will sometimes secrete a small amount of semen during intercourse before ejaculation. So if you do choose to wait, start using condoms or the pill. I hope everything works out :)
It sounds like he loves you and wants to go ahead and do everything he was hoping to while he has the chance, like start a family. Has he asked you to marry him before?
Look at the long term affects of this, were you to have this child, how would that affect your life? What about the life of the child? Is that the kind of life you want for your child?
Do what you think is right, if you honestly love this man and want him as the father of your children, go ahead, but remember, you're very young, and have your future ahead of you. Think of how this would change that.
I would not have kids just yet because of your exams coming up in the summer. I would personly hold off having kids until your abour 25 to 30 because you are less likely to encounter any problems like misscarrage. I work for a charity which deals with dead prem babies and we get letters saying how happy the parents are for the donations that we get. the last thing that you probly want is to be upset with having a dead child on your hands.
I think that it would be hard but I cant make that decision for you I cant tell you what to do you need to decide for yourself girl and it will be hard but it would also be the greatest thing to ever happen to you an that there is also the thing about you haveing twins that might be hard but if you really love him then I say you just should follow your heart
I respect that he going in to the military seperfi you have plenty of time to makeur disecion sence you have to be out of school to join/go in to the military the death rate for the mililtary is about 1/8000 and the chance off behit by that is about 2/3600
