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I thought I finally met the person of my dreams. We had so much in common. Then three months into our relationship, he started having problems concerning a lawsuit when ex- business partner sold a building he owned and did not pay four yrs worth of property taxes although my ex had sold out to him four years ago. The new owner had to pay the back property taxes and is now suing him and his partner for re-embursment. This was not his fault since he had no dealings with the building or business. Then the company he worked for went out of business and then a couple of other things went wrong causing him more stress. He has had to get a loan from a couple of friends in the meantime.
We were living together and a some other things happened while I was away at a conference and when I came home he wanted me to pack my things and move back home that he was moving and may have to move out of state. Well, it has been a month now since I left and he has not moved as of to date and we are no longer speaking. I have feared it was another woman who has come into the picture and all the signs point toward this, but he says it's not about another woman but about his situation. He goes out and stays gone a good bit on the weekends which leads me to believe otherwise. I live just around the corner from him, by the way. I have to pass by his house going to work , to my mom's and to the store. I emailed him the other day to let him know I was concerned about him and his only reply was a short "I'm ok." I am not going to email him anymore. Although, I miss him so much. It just hurts to have to drive by his house each day without having to go three miles out of the way to everywhere. After the lawsuit he changed on me and had mood swings. I just do not know what I did while I was gone that changed our relationship to this. We were alright when I left, I thought and we talked while I was away. I was looking forward to coming home to him and got the oust , instead.
Please help me here.
I was told this past Saturday 10/27 that he saw my ex-boyfriend out on his back deck with another woman and they were standing too close for it to be anything casual. He turned around to go back by and they were standing by her vehicle. Later that evening her vehicle was back over there but did not stay over night. He lives just around the corner from me. It was nice of my friend to help me find out the truth here. IT was ALL about another woman and he lied to me about that. I now know the truth he would not tell me because he is gutless two timer. He does not deserve me or any good decent woman who he encounters in the future. I guess that is why he has been divorced three times and been single at 61 yr. old for four years. He likes to chase younger women, lies that he is 56 yrs old and pretends to have money that he does not have. He is going bankfrupt over a lawsuit he is involved in. That poor girl he was seen with any other woman who he tries to get involved with. He admitted that he cheated on his first ex. Once a cheater, always a cheater...right?
I was told this past Saturday 10/27 that he saw my ex-boyfriend out on his back deck with another woman and they were standing too close for it to be anything casual. He turned around to go back by and they were standing by her vehicle. Later that evening her vehicle was back over there but did not stay over night. He lives just around the corner from me. It was nice of my friend to help me find out the truth here. IT was ALL about another woman and he lied to me about that. I now know the truth he would not tell me because he is gutless two timer. He does not deserve me or any good decent woman who he encounters in the future. I guess that is why he has been divorced three times and been single at 61 yr. old for four years. He likes to chase younger women, lies that he is 56 yrs old and pretends to have money that he does not have. He is going bankfrupt over a lawsuit he is involved in. That poor girl he was seen with any other woman who he tries to get involved with. He admitted that he cheated on his first ex. Once a cheater, always a cheater...right?
Dear koobeedoo, At this point it doesn't matter what happened...he has asked you to leave, wishes for you not to communicate with him. In a perfect world you could speak with him, get the truth, get him help and the you both live happily ever after. But you cannot make him speak with you or tell you the truth. You've tried and tried now take a step back. Perhaps he felt you'd be better off without him...he may be right. Perhaps he does have another woman on the side and still you'd be better off without him. It's a sad situation and I understand you feel helpless to help him but if he refuses your help and you've reached out there isn't much more you can do. He had a string of bad luck but this is life. He would no doubt benefit from counselling at this point but this will have to be his decision to go. Sue...good luck
don't go after him, maybe he think you'll come running and worried, then again, maybe not. but just let it be
