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What do I do about my family's racial issues?

I am in high school, which means that I have to obey by my parents’ rules. And my parents are racist. We are white, but I have recently started to like a black guy at school that I have known for a while. I am extremely close to my parents and wouldn’t want disobey their rules or go against their wishes. But I don’t think it’s wrong to date people of other races. Sometimes, you just can’t help who you like. Therefore, when me and this black guy started dating, we had to keep it a secret so my parents wouldn’t find out. He told his dad that my parents were racist and now he’s not even allowed to talk to me. So we can’t date, but I still really like him. I wanna talk to my dad about dating people of other races, but I know that he will disown me. What do I do?

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Answer #1

Maybe start off by losing the ‘black’ and ‘white’ word choices, kinda politically incorrect there mate.

A person is a person regardless of which nationalities they are. It sucks to have parents who are so narrowed minded considering this is the 21st century. There are so many interracial relationships around the world; it’s time your parents open their eyes to the real world and stop being stuck in the 1900’s.

Hang in there, wait til your 18, find a job then date whoever you want and if your parents still throw a ‘stink’ regarding who you are dating, then you have the finances and a job to move out. Parents cannot control your life forever you know, kids do grow up and become independent.

Answer #2

If you are 16 and feel sure he is the right man for you and it is not just casual dating BREAK WITH YOUR PARENTS FOR RIGHT OF CHOICE IN LOVE AND MARRIAGE WITHOUT RACIAL BARRIERS Warning you might be cheated and very wrong about this person.

Answer #3

Aaaah. Bad situation.

Do you think that you can talk to your parents about racism. (In general - not about your boyfriend) Tell them you think their behavior is racistic and tell them you think it’s wrong. You are not a racist, but your parents are. So you probably have found good reasons for yourself why racism is wrong. Try to convince them. Maybe you can change their views on the long run.

Also talk to your boyfriends family. Tell them that you parents behavior is not you fault. Tell them what you feel about their son. Tell him that you are sad about the situation. Maybe they’ll like you if you talk to them.

Answer #4

If your family really loved you they would understand and they’ll just have to accept it. End of.

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