We had a huge row

The only thing that is your fault is caring so much about him that you got jealous and insecure. If he can’t see that then he needs to re-adjust his perspective. You care about him and found a text message that hurt your feelings. He has to put himself in your shoes and imagine how he would feel. You even tried to forgive him and move on but you were still hurting and after a few drinks all hell broke loose because you couldn’t deal with the idea of losing him. I’m not saying this was the best way to confront the situation but you did the right thing about talking about it. These things need to be talked about and if he still cares he should be as willing as you to work on this together.

Tell him your sorry about blowing up but that you care and that you need him to understand how insecure it makes you feel. Tell him that not taling this through just makes thinsg worse and hurts even more Tell him if he still cares about you that he should at least talk to you about the situation and explain himself.

Also, I don’t understand why he wants to split? This can hardly be the solution if he loves you? If he wants to split then he should give you the true reason and not some lame reason like this one.

Relationships are hard work, you can’t just walk away from one every time you have a fight or disagreement. That’s what makes them beautiful. You know the person loves despite your faults and will always be willing to work it out.