What ways, if any are their to help someone stop being racist?

Racism is not a diease, it is a state of mind. Therefore it cannot be cured. The best thing you can do is ignore it. Hope this helps :)

It cant be cured unless you take them to a therapist, phyciatrist, hypnotism, brain-washing….It’s the way the person grew up, who they were around, after all a person is a product of their home. I grew up in a racist house but i really realize that skin color doesnt matter t ll, it’s the person inside, and i learned that from my friends around me, if you really want a person to change maybe you can give them non-racist friends but other than that….they will most likely stay that way forthe rest of their life

Well actually thr parents and none of their family are racist. Their family and I have always wondered how she ended up that way. Thx for the suggestions

Youre talking about internal issues that obviously need therapy. If she hates white people, she’s obviously not too fond of herself. You are not going to fix this. And anyways, I find it is best not to interfere with people’s lives if they are not specifically asking you to help them. If they are, refer her to a therapist.

She actually did ask for our help, I just wasn’t sure how to go about doin that

Maybe y’all aren’t old enough to remember, but millions of people in this country stopped being race-haters over the last several decades. It can happen. Mostly, it doesn’t happen by argument but by having some kind of experience that provides a different perspective.

But a white person who hates whites - I’m not sure that’s racism, exactly. It sounds to me more like guilt or shame. What do you think?

In any case, since you say your friend has asked for your help, it seems that she’s already taken the first and most important step. She knows there’s a problem, and she wants to change.

If you want to help, don’t try to persuade her. Instead, the most important thing is to give her opportunities for her to talk about it, mostly uninterrupted, while you just listen to her - patiently, and non-judgmentally. You can ask her questions about it if that helps to draw her out. Questions that are open-ended (not yes-or-no), non-critical, maybe even indirect sometimes. Like: “When did you first learn that there are different races of people?” “When do you first remember feeling the way you do toward white people?” “How does it feel to be white?” “What do you imagine it would be like to be of another race?” “How do you imagine you would feel toward white people then?” Your own honest questions to help you understand, too. The more you can open your heart to her and listen - even if you don’t agree with a word she says! - the more you will support her healing. And the better you will get to know your friend’s heart and soul, too.

Excellant answer thx so much :-)

You’re so very welcome! I’d love to hear back from you about it if anything further happens :)