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Am I wrong for going out with him?

I had this best friend who liked this guy. I started liking him and one day he just asked me if I liked him and I said yes. He told me that he liked me too. I never told my friend cause she’d be hurt..Even though I hurt her anyway.. This guy told my friend that her and him are friends and thats all they will ever be. I figured once she knew that they are just friends, that it would be ok if I went out with him.. I did go out with him and I currently am, but my friend ‘didn’t know’. She thought we were joking when we said it, but I didnt know she thought that.. Another friend of mine told her, and the same day, she called me and totally SPAZZED! She was saying things like how could I do that to her? and that the worst part was, was figuring it out from a friend. And I told her that I thought she knew cause we told her… Me and her are somewhat friends, but were never going to be close again, and I don’t really want to be. Do you think what I did was wrong? Or am I just the ‘B’ word? Like I don’t understand why I shouldn’t of went for it.. I knew just as well as her that he wasn’t going to ask her out.. !! :(

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Answer #1

I think you deffinately did the wrong thing!

Firstly : Friends come before guys especially at your age

secondly: you went behind her back and puposely hid it from her (not to hurt her feelings) thats lying!

immagine if you really liked some guy and he dint like you. That wiould make you sad enough with a friend going and disrepting your feelings.

if you dont know how to traet and friend and be mindful of their feelings, you deffinately should not be in a relationship.

Relationships are more complex that frienships and honesty is essential

you need to learn how to be a good friend.

I cant believe you went behind her back and dint tell her. If she was your friend, you should have felt comfortable enough talking to her and asking her how it would make her feel. You never know she may have said go for it! And still you shouldnt!!!

you will learn from this mistake you have made. Hopefully you will be able to put yourself in her shoues and understand how she would feel. Otherwise one day it may happen to you! Then you will realise you have done something wrong. You have Lied. You have been unsensative. You have not been a good frind. And its prob all for nothing!!! A silly 14 years olds crush and you have hurt someone that really matters to you (or should)

Answer #2

Well my friend even said that im not the one to blame fully. He had some part in this, not only me. I have asked her what would she do if we went out and she said she’d do nothing and that she dont care. What am I suppose to think after she said she wouldn’t care? Be like im sorry I can’t go out with you cause my friend don’t care?!

Answer #3

you did the right thing, she’s just jealous. she’ll get over it and if she doesn’t she’s just immature.

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