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Wanting my daughter back...

A few years ago my daughters father convinced me to let his new wife adopt my daughter. She lived with his mother and needed his wife to come home from the military and he told me if she adopted my daughter she could come home and nothing would change. I would still get to have her on the weekends and holidays and they would never keep her from me. She is 11 years old now and is upset that her dad and stepmom wont let her see me. I signed all rights away and let his wife adopt her and now my daughter wants to be with me..not sure what I can do? She begs her dad and stepmom to let her see me and they tell her no. She got in trouble for trying to call me to see how I was doing. I have her 2 brothers that live with me and she cant even see them..this is breaking my heart and my daughters heart not to mention the rest of the family..is there anything I can do?

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Answer #1

Nothing has changed in the situation with my daughter. I need to contact a lawyer about it and see if you are right about the defraud with the military. I just want to be able to see her and talk to her..I sent her a text message on xmas and her father threatened to get a restraining order if I didnt leave her alone. Not sure what else to do in the situation other then contact a lawyer and go from there I guess. I love and miss her so much and just hope there is an ounce of a chance that I might be able to see her again..thanks for the advice ethmer

Answer #2

Check with a lawyer!

The adoption was undertaken in order to defraud the military rather than to do what was best for the child. You might have a case to get the adoption overturned.

Answer #3

I’m sure that is very hard for you. As ichibanarky has said- there may not be anything legal you can do -so in this situation ‘accept the things you cannot change’ and maybe reach out to them. They may be rotten people that dont want to help you - I dont know- but at this point all you can do is try- try the approach of ‘whats in her best interest’ , try writing them a letter or send them an email - ask if they will please give her letters you write to her if they dont want you talking on the phone with her. it is completely unfair that you have to take this approach of asking them but if it will get you more contact with your daughter, then so be it. In the very least, your daughter needs to see/know that you love her and want her in your life

Answer #4

I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do - you signed off your rights.

You’ll have to wait until she’s 18 and able to make her own decisions.

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