The best way to deal with being disowned for marrying a non-muslim

I am a 28 yr old female, who has recently married a Hindu man. I have always had a tough relationship with my family, due to mental abuse. I was molested by an Uncle and my family chose not to do anything about it. I was never able to deal with that, but constantly tried to make them happy…find a good Muslim boy. I had a few relationships with Muslims and each one of them treated me badly, from mental to physical abuse. I’m not saying Muslim men are bad, I just didn’t seem to have any luck with them. I had a significant relationship with a Sikh man, who my family loved. Sadly it did not work out and we went our seperate ways. A few years later a Hindu friend of mine and I decided to try things out and took our friendship to the next level. I can say, hands down he is the man I have dreamt of my whole life. Dad came to know of this and supported it, only if he converted and forgot everything about being a Hindu. So forget the last 30 years of his life in other words. He was ok with converting, then dad demanded his name be changed to a Muslim name (not mandatory), then he demanded that I keep my Muslim name and not take my husband’s last name, which we all know is a man’s pride. I refused to do so, so my family disowned me, now calling me a Hindu. I have not left my religion, I have just found my Love after years of turmoil. I am extremely happy with my husband and his family, they are very loving and accepting. I know I made the right choice. The only thing I am upset with is dealing with being disowned. My family has not been there for me many times in my life and I have been mentaly and verbaly abused for the last 13 years. So why am I having a hard time letting go. I have urges to call my dad (I was close with him) but my husband and friends do not think that would be wise. As he did call the police when I tried to go over there. I want nothing more than this pain to go away and to move on with my new beautiful life.