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I’m 21 years old and have never been in a real realtionship. I’m scared to death what people are going to think, if I’m going to get in trouble. I’m even afraid to go about and tell my parents that I’m “talking” to a guy. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am “talking” to this wonderful guy that I recently got the chance to meet but I’m ruining it. I won’t ask/tell my parents that I’m seeing him or even want to go out with him on a friday night date; I’m scared of what they are going to say. I like this boy a whole lot and don’t want to mess it up, but thats what is happening. Do you guys or girls have any pointers on what to do? I’m sick of being lonely with nothing to do because of my fear of letting my parents in on stuff. So help please.

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Answer #1

I also have strict parents, but not as strict as yours. I’m in a 3 year relationship and my dad still considers my boyfriend a “friend” of mine. He knows really well that he isn’t, but he can’t accept the fact that I’m growing up (I’m 18 by the way). Anywho, your 21 years old and your not getting any younger. I agree with Zexxi pink pwincezz that you need to stand up for yourself and put your foot down. However, don’t get all wild just yet. Do not get pregant either. You want to live your life first before you decide to have children. Also, make sure your wonderful guy knows how your parents are. Don’t be scared to let him know. I told my boyfriend how my parents and he respected that. We have been together for 3 Years and I still have not gone out with him on a date. He is only allowed to come over and watch a movie in the living room WITH my PARENTS around! I know CRAZY! But what can I do. Just make sure you let your guy know about the situation. Talk to your parents and tell them your an adult and are ready to make your choices. Your a big girl; go do your thing! Hope my advice helps… Good Luck! =)

Answer #2

I agree with Alexis 1623, but I think your problem is that your parents raised you strictly which caused you to be a “good girl” which was good but now you are stuck in that good girl mode and trying to please your parents but they have to understand that you are growing up and you are older now and you have “grown up tendecies” It might be nice to sit them down and have a good talk with them and pour out your feelings and ideas and let them know that there is a wonderful man in your life and you want them to meet him and be nice to him. If you are worried about them embarrasing you talk to him in private first and tell him whow your parents are and if he really loves you he won’t care or he’d try to put up with it. I want you to ask yourself (are you really happy watching the parade go by and being stuck in the sidelines just because of your parents? ) If the answer is No then you must know that you have to face your fears and you must fight your battles.And you must handle this the way a true adult would , nothing silly like just getting pregnant to make your parents accept that you are older. That’s a very childish way to go about things. If they an’t accept it or they dont respond the right way you still have to live your life regardless.

Answer #3

You are 21 you can do what you please!!!

Tell them your old enough to have a boy friend you are NOT a little girl you are a women!!!

Answer #4

A 21 yo female makes what she wants, she does not need the permission of the parents. If the atmosphere at home is so bad that you cannot tell anything personal about your real life, then do not tell anything. Not you are that who built up this (terrible) atmosphere at home. Anyways, many 21 yo females can live on their own. That is usually help the process of getting more free and independent.

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