Stress and anger problems

First off, take a few deep breaths. Just breathe a while. Feels good doesn’t it?

When we get angry and stressed we forget to breathe. We forget to take two steps back and just return to the basic elements in life breathing and drinking water (very helpful!). I know it sounds a bit silly but taking that little extra time to concentrate on something else then what is stressful or making us angry can really help us make better decisions. (ex.: going for a walk instead of screaming) Excercise is another great way to get stress down and deal with anger.

Also, you need to look at priorities here. What happens is that you’ve put everything as a must get this fixed, or deal with this right away level. You can’t deal with it all at the same time, no one can. That’s why you’ve got to prioritize stuff and just plain get rid if the stuff you can’t change without even straining yourself more (ex.: worrying about a friend isn’t going to help you nor them, let it go until you’ve got your stuff together then you can concentrate on them, if the guy is getting you down then just plain dump him or take a break until you less stressed). Write down every problem you’ve got and try to see them as situations that can or can not be changed. Then write down how you can change them to make you happier or make life easier. Try keeping just one or two priorities until they have been solved don’t put anymore on the top of the list.

Last but not least, what about counseling? talking to someone? Have you tried this, talking things through and about what makes us angry can really help to learn the triggers and then how to deal with our feelings. It also helps us take the burden off our shoulders because instead of keeping it all inside until we explode, we get out there where better solutions can be found. Afterall feeling angry is a normal human response to different situations. Like you said it’s more in how we deal with that anger and even more important how we organize our life to feel less angry.

Here are a few great sites I found. I hope they can help: http://www.pe2000.com/anger.htm http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anger-management/Pages/Introduction.aspx?url=Pages/what-is-it.aspx http://work911.com/anger/ http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/managing_anger.html