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Why are my friends telling me their problems?

My friends are always coming to me with their problems, they never ask for advice. I feel really guilty if they talk about other people. This girl told me she was anorexic and had bullimia and I’m scared and don’t know if I should help them all or let them pile it all on me!I’m already dealing with my own stress at the moment, do they think I’m a good listener?

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I think that honestly your friends just need someone that can listen to them. You don’t need to provide any solution at all, all you need to do is listen to them when they need you too. Make sure that you’re actually listening though, it helps to know what your friends are telling you. Sometimes, it can be helpful to provide an answer for them if they need it but all they could use is a hug and some compassion.

You have your own stress at the moment and that’s understandable. Your friends should respect you and let you have time for yourself. It may seem like they have a huge dependency on you but in reality they can handle a few days without you. Take some time out for yourself to work out your own problems, you can’t help anyone when you need help yourself. It may seem a bit selfish but that’s how things work, you need to be able to help yourself before helping others or else you won’t be of much help at all.

Good luck and take care.

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