Still cant cope

I was raped and sodomized by my boyfriend 4years ago when I was 14 and I still cant get it out of my head. I haven’t told anyone but my fiance and its starting to get in the way of our relationship and of me being a good mother to my one year old baby girl please help!

Answer #1

ok, so your 18. youve got a baby and a fiance - thats a family.

maybe you should try seeing a specialist? or get advice from a professional - like one of them ciciatrist people. just talk to someone about it, and then try and forget it. your fiance sounds like hes supportive - he just wants to love u, let him. xx

Answer #2

You need to talk to someone - a professional. I was raped when I was 20 years old by my drug dealer. It made me push away my fiance at the time and feel like everyone was out to get me - I had to talk to a professional to get through my feelings and my fears and get a normal life back.

You cant do this on your own - and you need someone to help you.

Answer #3

I’ve also been sexually abused so I know what you’re going through. You have to seek help and get it out of your system. It’s a lot of hurt to keep locked inside. Not only that but the rapist could be brought to justice. Although if you do not to tell the police you do no have to, no names need be mentioned if that’s how you want it. Your mental health is more important.

Look in local papers and flyer’s to see if there’s a local help group in the area. You can also get advice off the phone if you think you are not yet ready to face someone. Another option would be asking your doctor to refer you to a psychiatric nurse ( that’s what my doctor did).

Nobody deserves to be raped so remember it is not your fault. So many people blame themselves when it really isn’t there fault at all.

You need help hun, do not let that pervert ruin your family unit. Do not give him that right. good luck x

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