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step daddy drama!!! help me advice quick!!!

I have a 3 yr old son buy a lady that allready has a 11yr old son ,has father is I prison but when he was out he instiled in him a thug mantaluty ,so he ask just his dad,my sons mother turned out to be a golddigging tramp she kicked me out of house and inforced child support after I lost my business,her dad is a parolee as will and he never liked me,I think my bm is still in love with x and got with my own tha rebond,but back to her son he ask like he hates me ,I think that if he did otherwise his family would get mad,so cents he ask like hes hates me I dont buy him things like I used to ,I just do for my son and that it ,am I wrong to fill this way ,advice please…

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Answer #1

since you were with his mom and you treated him as your own, I wouldnt stop getting him things as well…he is just a child and innocent in it all…yes, your 1st priority is your 3 yr old that all his needs are met(food, clothes, diapers, ect…) But in still buying your 11 yr old step son a toy or a gift it is showing him you still love him and care for him despite what is being told to him otherwise, in treating him the same as your 3 yr old in that, he will grow up with having the chance to “come back” to you someday and you may be the greatest of friends and have the greatest relationship…sounds like he needs a good role model and right now you are maybe denied in his life, but what you continue to do for him, he wont forget, even if he acts like he doesnt care or says he hates you now. You may just be that one person that he knows that he can go to.

I wish you the best and I am so sorry for your situation!

Answer #2

I think your focus should be on your 3 yr old - look after his needs and teach him to be kind with good moral values as he grows…I wish you the best !!

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