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so anybody that is here to listen thank you .Im jenna im in 8th grade and i live in new jersey. my parents got separated in september of last year.and my dad has moved in and out alot.he would stay for a week and then leave.after i hit like ten years old me and my dad never got along.now he moved back into my house for good.when my mom and i heard he was moving back we packed our things and left.i went to my friends house and she went to her moms house.then we came back and now were living here with him.for the last week i have been so mad and depressed with life.my dad and i fight everyday and he degrades me in front of my friends.yesterday i had my friend over and he came in my room and told her that she needs to stop being friends with me because i dont deserve a good friend like her.then i come home from the movies and my fish is dead.its laying there in the bowl with its mouth open and it all lopsided which means it was deprived of oxygen.also some water was missing from the bowl.i know he killed it so we told my mom.and she told me i was a liar after she cursed me out for at least three minutes.i have been telling her to call the cops and tell her there is an abusive man in her house and that he wont leave.i dont want him here.he says i am a mother f****** bi tch who doesnt deserve to be happy.he told me that he shouldnt have wasted all his money on me.that im a spoiled brat.and that he should of stuck his foot up my ass years ago.he has a knife in his room.and just every little thing i tell my mom she calls me a liar for it.she is indenial and i dont know what to do.just please help me.
I know what it feels like to have ppl against you. Especially family, But you pushed what everyone said away. That was complete BS. I was hit across my house by my step father and sexually harrassed for years by him. If these ppl were trying to help me I would have took what they said to heart. What you did was try to attract attention then push it away like it was nothing. People like you, that do this bullsht makes me so mad. I know what it is like in those situations. When my step dad did all that sht to me, my mom let his a$$ back in the house with me. Even though she knew what was going on and she saw him hit me. He didnt push me he full blown HIT me where it left bruises on my chest and made me fly through the house and bounce off the hard wood floor two times. So aside from what happened to me, you have had it easier. I would have loved for him to talk sh*t about me instead of what did happen, but no I had both sides of that. Consider yourself lucky that these users even cared enough to try to help. Next time take it to heart. Dont say "Im not going to do that".
If I were you and next time you need help, take the damm advice and dont throw it away. These users took their time to give you help that you asked for. And then you act like that. That was complete BS!!! I wouldnt be surprised if they didnt answer anymore of your questions after this.
i understand how you feel!!..i wouldnt want to leave my house either..that is your home an you dont want to leave you just want the situation to change..ive been there!!i think you should try the hotline because they dont have to take you away from your home just dont give away to much information about were you live && maybe they can give you the help an advice you are lookin for because they are used to doin that sort of stuff..an to everybody else maybe we should try to help her an understand how she feels but at the same time you also have to understand that your parents are emotionally abusing you and you may be better somewhere else but i wouldnt want to leave either so you should try the otline!!
i understand how you feel!!..i wouldnt want to leave my house either..that is your home an you dont want to leave you just want the situation to change..ive been there!!i think you should try the hotline because they dont have to take you away from your home just dont give away to much information about were you live && maybe they can give you the help an advice you are lookin for because they are used to doin that sort of stuff..an to everybody else maybe we should try to help her an understand how she feels but at the same time you also have to understand that your parents are emotionally abusing you and you may be better somewhere else but i wouldnt want to leave either so you should try the otline!!
Sorry but if you want help, some tips:
A) Ask your question in your title. Your title doesn't say a THING about what you need answered.
B)Have shorter questions! Or at least paragraphs. NO ONE is going to read that long thing.
If you need help, for real (based of Cassie's comment) call 911. Otherwise, try asking this question with the tips I just gave you. Your title is unoriginal, and your long question is tedious to read.
Cassie is right,we can't help you. I read a few of the comments. Regaurdless if it's your dad that needs to go,your mom isn't doing anything to help you. You need to go somewhere else or find some help and call the cops or find a therapist that can help you find a place to go until things get worked out with you and your mom and dad. But you turned down everyone else's advice. No one can help you if you don't try to help yourself.
Apperently no. If she keeps taking his side and doesn't beleive you and if she wants to be selfish,why would you want to be in a home where neiether of your parent's give a sh!t about you? --and i never said you are dumb. --If you are in a home where you are being emotionally abused and when your parents are attacking you on each end and not caring about how you feel,then it doesn't make sense to want to stay there.
Im not dumb.I would only do it if my mom was by my side but she isnt.im not leaving my house i want somebody in my house to leave.and praying can get you some where so .i just needed advice on how to ignore him and deal with my mom is there seriously no way that i can get her on my side or to believe me? because she said he isnt leaving until i go to college .
what are you expecting? us to feel sorry for you and to say we will pray or something? I don't see how anyone can help you with this situation. YOU need to do something to help yourself. We can't do anything but say what we feel can help,but that isn't what you want to do.
PS- after reading it, you need to call someone for help.
Call 411 and ask for the department of children and family services. They can get you out of that home.
Alternatively, call 800-422-4453
for free. It's a natural child help hotline.
Yes. I agree. The only reason I actually read it is because you spelled everything right and it was legible, but if you did paragraphs and a better topic it would be so much better, and more people would read it. I often skip questions like this.
I meant national, not natural. Sorry, it's late. Call them. You do'nt even have to give your name, it's free, and they can help. Use a pay phone or phone at school if you don't want it to show up on the home phone bill.Good luck.
It doesn't sound like your Mom is on your side in any way. Why would you want to stay there? You're making it sound like she's keeping him around just to make you miserable.
Thanks to everyone who tried to help me . My mom said she will get us some help and that he wont be there when i become a freshman :D
We can't help you. If it's something truly serious you need to turn to the police. We can't come sort things out for you.
Im not going to do that . im just looking for some tips on how to put up with it . not to be judged .? thanks .
I know but im not going to call anybody?what so they can take me away from my family?my dad needs to go not me.
Then don't ask for advice if you aren't going to take anything everyone is telling you to do.
I know that people are telling me advice but thats just not the advice i expected im sorry .
You said your Mom went to your Grandmothers at one point. Is that an option for you?
PS- it's 24 hours. the hotline. 800-422-4453
You shouldn't have to put up with it.
