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Something might not be right with my brother.

when my Grampy passed away on thursday night, everybody was crying and upset. although my eldest brother sam who’s 17 did not even show any sign of being upset. Is this normal. I know it hits hard at different times for different people, but now everyone had grieved apart from my brother.

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Answer #1

Sorry for your loss! Men in society are pressured not to cry and “act like a man” He is upset, there is just a stigma for men to cry. I would keep a close eye on him though, because it is dangerous to bottle up your emotions, that is why some guys get angry rather than sad. Some boys punch walls, etc. because they bottle in too many emotions! I’d go into his room right now, or whenever he has some free time and just have a little talk with him. He doesnt have to cry, but as long as he talks about it, then its okay!

funmail me if you need more help! -emma ps. it also may be that he is in shock right now and it has not hit him yet

Answer #2

It probably hit him just as hard,but he shows his emotions in different ways. The little girl I babysat died about 5 months ago,and I didnt cry at all.Not even at her funeral.IT didnt hit me until about a month later,when I realized she was really gone,and thats when I cried. Maybe your brother cried in private,where no one could see,or maybe he just hasnt realized,it hasnt hit him just yet.

Answer #3

your brother might feel that since he is 17 he should be a man and not show his feelings. he may have grieved in private. I dont really cry when I grieve, then again I’ve never lost a grandparent. reemember, people grieve differently, some people get very angry, some people become recluses and never go anywhere, and others, like yourself, cry and cry. everyones different. im sorry about your grampy.

Answer #4

He probably bottles everything up I do the samething when my friend(just like my brother) passed away I couldn’t cry my body felt sad and I was really upset but I couldn’t cry it didn’t mean that I didn’t care I just show my pain in different ways and your older brother might be the sameway

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