Should I trust my boyfriend if he lied to me about porn for 5 years

Hello, I am looking for advice as I do not know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and recently found out he watches porn (not very often). I mind, but I mind more that he lied to me about for so long. I asked him many times and he always promised me that he never went out of his way to watch it (he would leave it briefly on if he was chanel surfing). I know many people aren’t against this so please don’t judge me. I just find it to be very trashy and I do not watch it. I also mentioned to him that if he is a ‘typical guy’ (at the beginning of our relationship) who watches that stuff then I wasn’t so sure it would work. He told me he kept if from me so that he wouldn’t hurt my feelings. But I feel he just led me to believe he is someone he is not. I am now questioning myself as well as the relationship and trying to figure out what else he lied to me about. Can you please help me figure out if I can still trust him if he has deceived me for so long. I really need advice :( I am so devistated right now. I do not know what to do.

Answer #1

All men.Have.A.Vast Collection.Of.Pornography. There!!! I said it. ALL MEN HAVE A VAST COLLECTION OF PORNOGRAPHY. I don’t care who they are,what age,race,socioeconomic background,rich or poor 8-80,crippled or crazy… ALL MEN HAVE A VAST COLLECTION OF PORNOGRAPHY. Get over it.Pornography keeps men at home with YOU not out at bars chasing women in PERSON.Get it???Now Get Over it!Thank your lucky stars for your guy watching PORN instead of WATCHING and TRYING TO HUNT DOWN OTHER WOMEN.You should only worry if you find out that he is watching gay porn not straight porn.As a sidebar,his porn watching should not concern you one bit unless he is spending excessive amounts of money on it and time.Any man who escapes by watching porn insteead of spending quality tie with you in your rel;ationship togeher has an addiction to it and in this case he is not fit to be anyones boyfriend and should be dumped immediatly. If you would like to give your man food for thought,go out and buy a few copies of Playgirl magazine or some gay porn with naked men in it and leave it out for him to be offended by it.Ha ha. :-) Remeber,if you feel jealous or inadequate after seeing women in pornos,know that they are about 30-80% fake parts anyway.Most of them have fake boobies and butts and everything else and the ones in the pictures (magazines) have had all of their flaws painted over wth an airbrush or Photoshopped out.

Answer #2

Hes learning moves for you mayb you guys should watch it 2 gether do what they do

Answer #3

I have tried, and /I didn’t really like it. I told him I don’t mind if we watch it together if he wants to, but he tells me when I’m there he doens’t need it. He says he only needs it when I’m not around.

Answer #4

ok… but he lied about and promised he wasn’t watching it. if he can keep that a secret so as not to hurt my feelings for that long what else can he keep a secret? I don’t think he is cheating but I’m just worried that I have lost all trust in him, and right now I don’t even know what to do. I don’t feel like I can just let it slide that he lied for so long!

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