Relationship help

I just got out of a 8 month long relationship, girl wasnt right you know. But, after breaking up with her, i feel so alone, and, my heart and brain are telling me to find someone new. I dont miss my ex, not even a litte, but, i miss the feeling of having a girlfriend, of feeling like someone thinks i look good, or finds me attractive. Its only been like a week, or less since i broke up with her. And, ive been hanging with friends almost every day, but, ive never felt so alone. What should i do, i dont know how to deal with all these feelings im having! If i got with a girl would that just be for a bounce back, or do i really want a new relationship. My brain and heart tell me that i want a new relationship. But, why would I, why dont i just want to be single for a while. I dont know, i got major problems. Please, any advice helps……..

Answer #1

sad to hear you broke up..dont worry!! the feeling of loneliness is normal. no friend can replace a girl. my advice..be single for a while..hang out with your friends, cuz that may be one thing you might have not been able to do while u were in a relation. you are still young, have fun…when the right girl comes along..u will know..until then BEER PONG!!

Answer #2

Any girl you replace your ex with will just be a rebound, and chances are, that relationship won’t work out either because of your desperation at the moment to get another girl. Because of that desperation, well you will have it in your mindset that “pretty much any girl will do”, that won’t work out. My advice, wait. Wait until you feel better and actually feel like you want to go out there again. You just miss the comfort a girl provides you and you miss how she made you feel good about your own insecurities (your looks as you described in your question). That definitely does not mean you actually want a relationship or are ready for one. Actually, I assert that you are not ready for a relationship yet, it’s not even been a week! It’s going to sting a while, of course, you had emotional attachments to the girl, but it will get better. Do something you enjoy in the mean time, play video games, continue hanging out with your friends, cook, soccer, work out, whatever you might think of. Then, when you are over her you are ready for a new relationship. You’ll find the right girl for you, no worries about that.

Answer #3

JD, this is a golden opportunity for you to make friends with… yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company, in solitude. Find what you really like to do, what makes you feel fulfilled, purposeful, creative, in harmony, zestful, peaceful, resourceful, generous, and whatever you’d like to add to the list. Try some new things, in addition to falling back on familiar old ones.

Answer #4

It’s just getting over something you’ve gotten used to. It’ll pass with time I promise. Sorry, to hear about the break up, however, if it’s not right, it’s not right. It’s a common thing to experience what you are now. Don’t worry, just give yourself some time to readjust and you’ll be good.

Answer #5

In relationship sometimes space is much needed thing. Actually, sometime we just frustrated about thinking only about one thing or for one person. So, these times we like to be alone but, although you not to broke up with her. But, no matter now if you find someone attractive towards you than accept her proposal.

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