How can I reduce the tension and stress in our household?

I think that the best thing to do, when it seems like you guys are going to start screaming at eachother, and also when it seems like a fight is going to start, go outside, or walk away from the situation and wait till you are calmed down and then go back and talk to him camly. There is not much you can do with a pearson who blames everything os a disorder, but stop the fight, walk away and come back when you are more clamed down. You can also try to change some things around, if he can’t pick up his clothes, I’m sure he can put it in a hamper or something after he takes it off, so have a hamper near him, or where he ussually undresses so the clothes does not end up on the floor all the time. Have some trashcans around the house so he always has somewhere to put his trash in and stuff. This way he wont have to make an excuse on why his clothes is on the ground, and maybe it will reduce the conflict because there is something more straight foward?

I bought him a hamper for his room, and belts, shoes, and other junk end up in it. Its like talking to a wall when i speak to him. And I dont want him to have to live in a shelter or anything like that ya know?

He has gotten a social security check for a while and his aunt that he lived with before us had evidently lied to the social security office saying he paid bills, so that they would get bigger checks, and they found out that he didnt. Now he has to pay that back. so they are taking it out of his checks. He is only getting 300 a month until he pays off the supposed 4000