Really annoying brother and controlling anger.

Okay, I seriously need to learn to control my anger. My older brother’s getting on my nerves, he just HAS to make fun/ insult me all the time. I burst out just now, for the 2nd time, infront of my cousin and aunty and grandma, and my mum told me to control my anger. I’ve tried searching on the results here and my previous question, but they didnt really help. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about these things, usually I tell my mum, but looks like she’s on my brother’s side because she says that I take things to seriously and sh*t. But my brother has been making fun of me and insulting me a lot! It’s just that he has reached that point where I can’t take it anymore. I talked to her just now, and she told me to just ignore him, which I’m really bad at. I seriously feel like banging his head on the wall and strangling him, really bad. I’ve tried taking deep breaths and stuff, but they just wont work! I’ve tried thinking that being mad isnt good and all and its just wasting my time, but I just cant. Its like I need something to do or distract me when I’m mad or something. tips or anything please?

Answer #1

he’s 22 and im 14.

fantasy, finally someone who understands me! that must be annoying, lol

Answer #2

how old is he? … and how old are you?… and now think hard…

Answer #3

Well just ignore him. I can imagine how it would feel like to be you. I have a big sis but she protects me all the way and takes care of me in such a way that it would look like she doesn’t care for me.

Answer #4

Wow! I so understand what your sayn my older bro is 22 now and he use to do the samethng to me…In due time he passed it down/my younger bro picked it up he 16 and he act 12 well he pick on anybody…now my baby bro pickn it up. Ugh! I think its a guy thing seriously…Bt my mom told me the samethng ignore it..which is hard because its like if you dont say anythng/do anythng thats fuel to the fire…What I do is get my ipod in turn my music up loud to the point I cant hear anythng he say…it annoys me when he do that tho so I know where your comin 4rm

Answer #5

I can speak from an older sibling perspective.

I used to make fun of my younger brother all the time (he’s 8 years younger than me). Intead of getting all upset about it and taking it personal, make fun of him right back. Find things about him that you can pick on. I can tell you now that he is doing it just because it get’s on your nerves. Don’t let him see that it bothers you, if you do he’s going to continue it. Every sibling fights - especially when they are younger - it does end and he will grow up eventually. Me and my younger brother are now 23 and 15. We still pick on each other - but we can laugh about and not take it personally. That’s just how our relationship is.

Answer #6

I COMPLETELY understand your situation!! I’m 12 1/2 and my big brother is 13 1/2. We fight and argue at least 3 times a day and its driving our parents insane! I’ve been getting better at ignoring him over the years but it’s almost like my brother thinks that if he annoys me enough, he might win a million dollars!!! I love to read and that just makes it harder b/c I will be in the climax of a really good book and he will jump on my bed, yell and sing really bad in my room, or just throw stuff at me or in my floor! My parent take his side 95 percent of the time so it’s completely unfair for me! I’ve always heard that it will almost stop as we get older but it seems one-hundred years away! I really feel sorry for fanasy b/c she/he has three brothers and I only have one but I do like how she said “fuel to the fire” b/c I think she’s completely right. I think that the more mature you are the easier it is to ignore annoying things. I think I’m kind of mature for my age but it’s still REALLY hard!! I even rolled my brother’s room one time with toilet paper and put baby powder everywhere! (I was Grounded For two weeks but it was worth it) One way to get back at him is to annoy him back or just be really nice to him. It will freak him out and he might just say one insult and walk away! Anyway, I hope you like my answer and good luck with your brother!!! :)

Answer #7

dude. my brother is always picking on me…calling me fat…saying im a loser. I will never amount to anything. I get no girls. I have no friends (etc.) and it will drive me to the point of insanity…I try and think im better but it is always killing me not to respond

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