What would you do and how would you react if your teenage daughter told you she was pregnant - mainly for the adults on the site?

I’m 20 years old, and my aunt told me she would disown me if I ever got pregnant (before marriage).. My mom has told me she would be okay with me ever getting pregnant (she actually says she can’t wait) but it’s because I understand that he will be MY child and MY responsibility. Too many teenagers get pregnant and think no matter what, their parents will bail them out. I think they should be afraid they would be kicked out if they got pregnant so they would think twice before risking getting pregnant. I don’t have kids, so it’s hard to say what I would do, but I hope to be supportive (acknowledge their mistake, but be there for them) and make sure she understands it’s HER child, not mine. :)

i agree with you 100%… I never got preg before or after marr…but i would never stoop so low to disowning a child for being an in odd situation…I would however want to know how things ended up that way because i always swore that if I had kids, especially a daughter i would explain all the facts all the case scenario’s & what consequences could happen if she didnt take control of her life & body…I too wouldnt raise her child but i would step up to the plate, stand by her through everything & her final decision…also trying to help support it with her going to work of course…(but babysitting or stuff like that while she was at work after school!) Punishing her, disowning her, screaming at her…isnt going to change the fact that she is pregnant…so why even bother making her feel worse then she already feels! i would die right now to have a child…unfortunately i wasnt blessed with one….heck my mom even told me to just get pregnant…no matter how as long as they had a grandchild…but i just dont see how I could just be like some of my parents friends who go to a sperm bank…its just not me…i mean if it was meant to be then it would have happened bu now…maybe it is just fate!

even though i’m fourteen and i am a teen, i would be disappointed that she had done what she did, but since it happened, i wouldn’t go off on her constantly. sure, i wouldn’t be happy, but what’s done is done. luckily, i am smart enough not to get myself in either position.

When I told my dad I was pregnant I was extremely young and in a terrible situation with life. My dad broke down crying, hugged me and said he’d be there for me through anything and would support any choice I made. Thats honestly the best thing a parent can do in my opinion.

I wouldnt be happy. But I’d hope that they would come to me sooner rather than later, because either way kids dont realize that even if they are going to keep it, they need prenatal care. And in all honesty, I’d probably end up taking care of my kid. Yes, stupid decisions need consequences, but I would expect my kid to go to college or to get to the highest point in whatever would make her happy, and that can’t be done by yourself with a kid, so I dont expect a mistake to curb the rest of her life.

thats how my relationship is with my mom and if i do say so myself, i think i turned out pretty good

I don’t think you mean happy but exeptible and supportive mother.

I wouldn’t b particularly happy about it, but i would b supportive and wouldn’t hold it over her. i would have her make her own decisions about it and the child would be her responsiblity but i would do anything to keep her in school so i wouldbabysit a little.

If I were a mother, I would be disappointed for her. But would most definitely support her 100% throughout the whole pregnancy and raising the child. I would probably be sad that she didn’t confide in me about having sex, but what’s done is done and I think that every parent should support their children in whatever they do, weather it be good or ‘bad’.

the best thing you can do is to be supportive. tell her how you feel about her predicament but also let her know that you both need to make the best of this situation.

if i were a mother i would advise her before she becomes a teenager so as not to wait for one day to hear my daughter say something like that.