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Protective brothers?

Okay so my brothers are rediculously pretective of me, expecially about dating. I have talked to them niceley, meanly, everything. It just doesnt work. And for instance yesterday at school a guy was like was like “damn looking’ good” and one of my brothers flipped out!!! Just cause hes a year older. He like threw him up against the locker. I almost killed him!! I really need help. I have 5 older brothers and I am the only girl so I dont have an older sister to talk to and my dad is protecitve of me to and if I tell my mom she tells me shell talk to them. And it just doesnt work with them!!! And ik that they are my family, and there being nice by doing this but dont they understand when to stop!? Why cant they help me when I need them not when they want. So if there are any brothers that could tell me what to do or anyoneee who has advice please help me! Sorry for my novelll

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Answer #1

o mama, you are so much like me!!! I have five older brothers too. I know exactly what you mean. my brothers were pretty good but they have to trust you and you need to prove to them how smart you are. don’t wait for the next time. this may sound tacky, but call a family meeting:) tell them that you appreciate them being there for you and you know that you could come to them for anything, but they are not only embarassing you, but they look like they need anger management or they need to react differently. they need to be known for no funny buisness by a sense of respect not physical force. One just can’t walk around demanding resect from everybody wether its you or themselves the are fighting for. my brothers learned that unless my life was in danger, they let me make my own decisions. they even sat back and let me make some mistakes. I feel I am pretty smart when it came to that kind of stuff but still. that is their instint. they need to learn to control it though. theres nothing wrong with letting someone know who is in control. its not up to them.tell tell them to trust you. uh… gotta love those brothers huh?

Answer #2

girl I have almost the same problem !! my brother is way over protective of me and I cant even have a boyfriend without him saying hes gonna kill em and my mom keeps sayin hes not gonna and ill talk to him but it still dont work and im like 14 and hes 16 so yea I cant go anywhere with him cause I always have dudes checkin me out and if my bro see any of em doing that he beat the hell out of em so I’ve tried to nicely tell him its my life and ima do what I got to do and your gonna stay out of it but that dont work and I’ve begged him and that still dont work…yea long story lol srry

Answer #3

TELL YOUR BROTHERS YOU NEED SOME SPACE. TELL THEM YOU AREN’T GOING TO DO ANYTHING STUPID, YOU JUST WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT TYPE OF GUY YOU ARE INTRESTED IN SO YOU HAVE A BETTER HANDLE ON THINGS LATER IN LIFE.

Answer #4

aww thnks guys!!! ^^yeah thank you so muchh!! a meeting is a really good ideaaa! but like WHY? why do they care SO much about me its not like there protective of eachother it’s like all of them againstt me! and ik they want to make sure I make the best discision but they dont have to choose who I date and if I can’t date. there like more protective then my dad! please help guys! thank you guys forur help it helps a lot!! oh and iam 14 btww

Answer #5

That sucks! I am sorry sweetie! have about an hour conversation with them then tell us how it goes

Answer #6

I have the same problem my brother wants to controll my life and too protective I know he does it for my good but I gotta havee my own space I don’t wanna stuck as a nurd knowing nothing of life because my bro didn’t let me do it because he was scared I’d do something stupid and I can’t go out with my friends if he’s here because he won’t let me even if my mom says yes oh im so sad and last night he said to me yelling”AS LONG AS I AM ALIVE YOU WILL DO WHAT I SAY” and if somebody says this to you you feel bad very bad you feel like you are a toy and my bro plays with me hits me yells me everything and if I talk to my parents they will say he’s right he gotta protect you {{{HELP HERE PLEASE}}}

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