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I asked a few days ago, but no one with anything intelligent to say responded. I have been with my guy almost 9 years. We are not married. He is my best friend. I have NEVER cheated. Nor do I plan to. The problem is. He is my best FRIEND! I don’t really feel like much more than that a lot of the time. But I am friends with this guy who is becoming so much more to me very fast! We are together a lot, we both have 2 yr olds with our others, and we all hang out and stuff. We have both talked and have admitted to the fact that we both have feelings for one another. He makes me weak in the knees. I get butterflies everytime I see him! All the time! I have been with my guy since I was 15. And he is only the second guy I have EVER been with! I just feel like because I was so young, we just grew up and away! We have talked before, and he will ALWAYS be in my life, in a positive way. I am just very confused. I have no experience with men. Any advice is great…BTW my Child will be fine no matter what…please don’t tell me I have to stay with him because my kid will be messed up and get raped…I need mature responces. Thanks in advance!

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Answer #1

you made a good point. I used to ask about marriage, but he always says when I am ready. I guess that does say a lot huh?

Answer #2

I do love him…but it was the kind of love a 15 yr old has, not an adult. and because he is my BEST friend, the last thing I ever want to do is hurt him. he is the best father ever, very involved. he will be no matter what, I know that. it’s just that it’s been so long and we have a nice little family, but my mind is always wandering and I want to be fair. I’m just lost. but thanks for the advice, I do agree with you there!

Answer #3

You sound like you already know what you need to do. The guy you are with now - you feel nothing more than a friendship for - so stop leading him on. The longer you wait the worse things are going to be. You have to be mature and honest with him about how you feel, he deserves that kind of respect.

Just because you two have been together for so long does not mean that you should be with him.

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