What if my wife has been cheating on me?

Ours was typical tamil arranged marriage .. for about 1-2 years frankly I was depressed she wasn’t any match to me .. had insulted her sometimes also ..but also good took care of her ..then we had a kid, after which I started loving her like hell ..but once when she was in her mother’s house after delivery I gave her a surprise visit one day .. I was working 400 kms away but came in without telling her .. we were talking inside the house ..there was no one at her home ..then her cousin’s bike sound ..and strangely she ran out of the house to tell him that I had come home suddenly ..which kind of made me suspect her a bit .. I asked that directly to her as to why she acted like that ..and we had some fights over it .. on and off .. meanwhile our son started speaking ..and my love for her grew unbound .. every day and night was fun ..but me being a software we only had sex in the weekends .. then a cousin of mine 19 years old had come to attend a training in my city and stayed at my place ..for 2 weeks .. he was 10 years younger than her .. I started seeing some suspicious things at home ..a bit long to describe here .. I then confronted this guy directly and bet him a bit too ..on which he confessed my wife had been visiting his room in the night all of 2 weeks .. asking him to have sex with her when I was deep asleep .. she also had been hugging him kissing him with me just meters away reading or watching tv etc .. anyways when I asked her she made big scene that I lie he lie etc …

she is at her mom’s place and now our families are talking truce treating the whole affair as just my suspicion .. the cousin guy also now refuses all he said ..what should I do now .. I am 200% sure she had sex with him with me sleepign in the next room ..

Answer #1

Dear distraughthubby, Try to come to terms that this marriage isn’t right. It wasn’t right in the beginning and even though there was a period that you felt right with it, it isn’t right now. If you do not seek out counselling to repair this relationship is will not heal itself. Does it matter why she cheated…the fact is you thing she did and that is equal to she did in your mind. So unless you have help you know this marriage is at it’s end. It is sad when there is a child involved but a child would prefer to be with one happy parent then two very dysfunctional parents. Do what is right for your child and seek some help. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

can you not divorce her and maybe just look for more clues go threw her things ask questions later

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