Could you play dad/mum to another guys/girls baby?

I wouldn’t be able to do that very easily at all, even if I loved the guy and was dating. The only way I could see myself doing that is if I loved the man, and I know that we would have a future together, marriage or a marriage-like situation. What I mean is that I’d need that sort of a commitment and faith in the relationship for me to be able to play mom to another woman’s baby.

I personally LOVE kids. But i wouldent immediatly try to take over or anything. If it showed that the realtionship was going some where, or even if we were good friends and he asked me to try and help “role model” around the kid i honestly could. I have high mothering instincts and i could help with someone else child but i would prefer they ask me as not to over step a family boundrie

Nope, you dont ever ask anyone’s child to call you mom or dad if they have a mother and father, if youre with someone and they have a kid that they see a lot, but lives with the other parent, or lives with them, but sees the other parents a lot, you’re not their parent, you can be a friend or a step-parent type figure, but you shouldnt be trying to play house with someone else’s kid. If your with one of their parents and the other isnt living anymore, the kid should still know youre not their real parent. I knew someone who had a daughter with a guy, he took custody for whatever reason and the daughter still came and saw their real mother, but the dad had a girlfriend who asked her to call her “mom”. She told her real mother that, and obviously, it was upsetting, no one has the right to ask anyone’s kid to call them mom or dad.

Well I have done it and heres my take on it: You can be as much of a father figure as the relationship will allow, what I’m saying is the relationship with the children has to “grow” first. You can’t just act like “I’m your dad now”. Also, you have to care about the kids for it to grow properly and if you do, they will care about you too. It’s a growing process. However, if they are all living with you, you are the man of the house and therefore responsible for everything that happens there, so you do have to step up and assume the responsibility which sometimes requires making rules. Otherwise, use good judgement and realize the kids are people too and for them to respect you, your gonna have to earn it. Lead by example.

At the moment, I can’t imagine the other part of your scenario… I’m deeply in love with my husband who is also the father of my two sons. I can’t imagine finding another guy, other than him. And he didn’t bring any kids when we first met. He has only my kids…. at least I hope so. ;-)

But I do think that I could love another moms kid. Not only in the situation that you describe. But also if there was some kid in my family, like a nephew/niece who was orphaned. I also believe that I could decide to adopt a kid if I had the room in my home.