Is a person a bad parent if their child spends the night at his/her grandparents several nights every week?

A discussion im having with a friend of mine. Do you think it makes a person a bad parent if their child spends the night elsewhere 2-3 nights every week?

Answer #1

No maybe his/her grandparents like spending time with the child or the child like spending time with them and that gives time to the parent to be alone.

Answer #2

If there is a reason for it, like work than I think its ok. But, if its just to get a break from the child, I think its a bit lazy and not great parenting. Myself, I wouldn’t want my child away from me that much, I’d miss him. : )

Answer #3

No. If you still give your kid the love and care and just the perent figure, you are not a bad perent, sometimes perents do need time to fix thing or because they have to work e.c.t. Also if you know your kid is in a safe inviorment and you know he will be ok, is not bad either because you know your kid is safe and everything, so in a way you are taking care of him/her.

Answer #4

i know people who let their kids stay at their grandparents all the time

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Answer #5

Not necessarily, but that shouldn’t become a habit. It’s okay to let the grandparents watch after, and spend time with their grandchild…but you shouldn’t be making the grandparents watch after the child several days out of the week because you don’t have time for the child, or you want to go party. One or two nights every week, or every other week seems decent to allow the child to spend time with their grandparents.

Answer #6

I would have to ask why is the parent sending their child off to the grandparents in the first place? If there is a real reason for it then perhaps it would be int he best interest for the child or the parent. (such as abuse or feeling depressed & taking it out on the child)

If it is just to do it too take a breather then no, that is fine! We all need some time to ourselves as humans, but sometimes we simply need a bit more like a weekend to find some time to be with our thoughts & when you have kids that kind of disappears.

As said up above by angel, if it is done intentionally on a day to day basis, as a way to get rid of the child so they can just not have to take any responsibility for that child, then yes, I would consider them to be a bad parent!

It hard raising kids, I wont deny that but with that there are certain responsibilities that come with being a parent. Some sacrifices you have to make for the good of the child. If it is hurting that child in any shape form or way physically, mentally or emotionally sometimes it is simply best to make the ultimate sacrifice & allowing the grandparents to step in if they have the means, patience & physical ability to care for that child bcz the parent cant then it is a good thing not a bad thing.

Like I said it could go either way depending on the situation & why!

Hope this helps.

Answer #7

It depends on the reasoning: If the parent shoves the kid off to the grandparents at every chance they get just so that they don’t have to deal with the child, then that would sort of make them a bit irresponsible. But if the grandparents love having the child over to stay, and it’s more of a ‘treat’ for the child, and the parents love the child dearly and miss him/her while (s)he’s away, then it could be a way of letting the parents get some time to clean up and have a wee rest. I think going to the grandparent’s house is a nice thing for the child to have, I’ve never had grandparents and I’d love to if I could. But when it starts being a way of getting rid of the kid for a few days (as you said, 2-3 nights a week) that’s getting a bit much.

Answer #8

2-3 times a week is excessive unless it is because the parents are working etc… otherwise its dumping your kids on your parents. if you wanted to be alone so much shouldn’t of had kids.. its not a part time responsibility for whenever you want it.

Answer #9

Depends. Is the person a bad parent if their kid was in boarding school? Or if they sent their kids to live with relatives for education purposes? I dont see how this fact makes a bad parent. It depends on how old the kids are, whether the parents are doing the parenting (parenting is more than just being in the physical presence of the child), and why the kid is there.

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