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Parents don't want us moving in together

My parents are old fashioned. They didn’t live together before marriage. My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile and he just moved an hour away to the same town as my parents. I’ll be moving up there at the end of january and he wants me to move in with him. He got a great apartment that is big enough for the two of us, but also requires both of us to cover rent. Neither of us can afford it alone. I was all ready to say yes to him, but then my mom said they would disapprove and I don’t want to disappoint them. But he had been pretty much living with my while he lived here and w’e’re both in our 20’s (over 21 of course) so it’s not like we’re fresh out of high school trying to do this. I know there’s always the worry about “what if you break up?” but that’s a chance we’re willing to take. And anyway, both of us are very happy together and it just feels right to live with him.

So I guess my question is: how can I convince my parents it’s ok that I move in with him?

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Answer #1

You shouldn’t have to convince them, you are both adults, and what ever decision you make your parents have to deal with it on their own terms.

Answer #2

My parents felt the same way about my boyfriend and I (now my husband). They finally got over it especially when I told them I was pregnant. They never liked it but they did accept it.

Answer #3

You can sit them down and talk to them about how you love each other, and you’re in a commited relationship and that you would like to move your relationship further but you’re not ready for marriage quite yet. Try and find out specifically what they have an objection too… If it’s a moral objection to you sleeping together, well you’re already way past that point… However, know that no matter what you do they may never come to fully approve of your decision. It is up to you to decide then what is more important. Either way, I think over time they will get over it, but they are your parents and you know best

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