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My question is a little detailed so hang in there with me. I have a 2 1/2 year old. I am a first grade teacher and have worked since she was 4 months old. She has always gone to my sisters house while I work. previously my sister's children started school and she is ready to get back into the work force, so I had to find a new babysitter. I decided to take my child to my best friend's babysitter that she uses. the lady is state licensed. I asked her the usual questions before leaving my daughter in her care. My number one question was her form of discipline. She told me she only uses a time out system and I said great cause that is what we do at home as well. after 6 days of leaving my child in her care, my daughter came home and told me that she was spanked and it hurt very bad and she cried. I obviosly called the babysiter and asked her what happened. She said that three children were arguing and she pattted all three of them on the rearend because she was not sure which one was to blame. I talked to her and said well I would prefere if you use the time out system that we talked about. She said she normally does but it was a busy day. I figured okay give her the benefit of the doubt and my daughter is smart enough to tell me if it happens again and plus my best friend has used her for over 7 months and has not hand a problem. (her child is 9 months old). so I took paige back the next day and the babysitter told me that she was giving me a weeks notice because she does not like to be questioned and will not be questioned about what she does with the children and she spanks at her house and will not get in trouble for it. so I said no thanks I will take my daughter now, I don't need a weeks notice. I left in tears and was so upset to think she can tell me that I have no right to question my daughter. I came home and talked it over with my husband and he was furious. We called dcfs on her to let them know what happened. my question is first of all did we do what was right? second of all, the worst part of the story is, I have lost my best friend. from all of this, which we did not even once tell her we called dcfs, she just figured we did, she said we had no right to do what we did and she is so mad at us that she will not talk to us at all. She also delivered flowers to the babysiter the next day because she feels so bad that we did this to the babysitter. I need some advice from an outsider that is not biased on the situation. I am so hurt and saddened first of all because of what happened to our daughter, and second of all because of how my best friend treated me. does she have a right to be that angry and mad at me? In my opinion it did not even involve her, it was our situation. Am I right or wrong? Any advice would help.