Parental Control: leading to mental abuse?

You need to tell him that running away from his problems aren’t going to make them better, will just make them worse. If he is in danger at all, it needs to be reported. But, if hes not at danger then nothing will be done about it. You need to tell him to ask a professional, like a counsellor at school about it. They will take him step by step about what he has to do.

hi this is a response to mwebb even though its been perhaps a year now after what she wrote.

I feel very strongly that this woman should not be allowed to exert such pathological control over your boyfriend, even though he is only 17. those are his formative years (any one of any age should not be unfairly controlled) and she is clearly sapping away at his sense of self, ability to enjoy life like a normal teenager and sense of justice and reality - its not a justified response to block his desire to see friends with threats to take away his transport. I also think he will feel very betrayed and disconnected from his father, as he isn’t stopping this woman from taking the place of his beloved mother, in a sense he is losing both parents from this.

I disagree with babylove and stephanie when they say he should just wait and not run away, or just speak to a counsellor who might not do anything about it.

I think he should stand up to this woman. he should tell her that he has lived there for 17 years and lived a certain way with his mother and father. she has no right on earth to come in and make his life hell. if I were him I would make HER life hell, and constantly pressurise the father against her. I know it sounds malicious but he can influence his father’s opinion of her by talking abut her negatively over time, and highlighting all the bad things she is doing.

if all that fails, he should move out. maybe to a friends or try some other arrangement. if he can’t get her out of the house through fair means he must protect himself as best he can.

I really hope that he has found a solution and justice has been done here.

:) lucy

Hello. I recently just moved out of my parents house. I was very much in the same situation. I am 23 years old and I was being controlled by my stepmother. Everyday coming home from work it felt like I was walking on eggshells. I suffered from her mental abuse. My father couldn’t help me most of the time because she controlled him so much that he knew that if he defended me it would mean trouble for him. I lived with my step family and my father for 8 years and I was treated very much like cinderella. So I know how he feels. Like I said I am 23…I lived with the abuse for 5 years longer than I needed to. I would reccomend him leaving when he turns 18. Tell him to try and keep in touch with his father and remember that he is going through the abuse as well. No matter how hard it is to leave he must because he will not be able to do the things in life he wants to if he does not. The longer he stays the more control and abuse he will have to endure and in the long term the past can haunt him. To prevent this he can focus on what he wants in life and use all that negativity to push him harder towards his goals.

I was in a similar situation and I stood up to my dads girlfriend. She twisted everything around and made it seem like I was the horrible one and my dad believed her. This went on for three years until finally she put my father in jail. It was only for a weekend but after that he started to realize she wasn’t what she seemed. He still didn’t believe me right up until the day I went at her with a knife. I moved out after I was released from the hospital. They told the police that anyone in the situation I was in would eventually act the same way. I was released the same day after sitting in handcuffs for about 4 or 5 hours(they took my watch). I refused to talk to my father and eventually he started to miss me. After about 8 or 9 months he got rid of her and I now live at home with him and his knew girlfriend who I like very much.

An Abusive Mother’s hatred for her daughter is overwheming. This is killing the loving and caring Father. Her abusive nature has separated the Father from his Family.

An Abusive Mother’s hatred for her daughter is overwheming. This is killing the loving and caring Father. Her abusive nature has separated the Father from his Family.